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Do you usually sit in the same spot in therapy? If you've changed where you sit, did your T say anything about it? I always sit on the sofa directly across from T2, but I am thinking of sitting in a rocking chair that is closer to her next time, but I don't want her to make a big deal out of it. | ||
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There is only one chair to sit on, the other one is for T. I wish I could change it up sometimes. Like sit on the floor. It seems a bit stiff or forced to sit like that all the time. Just go for it LG, she'll just ask why (why?). | |||
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I'm not sure why. I think its because I hate her sofa. It's a little low to the ground, the cushions are uncomfortable. I never feel comfortable sitting there. I think I might be more relaxed if i am in the rocking chair. also, I am wondering if I will find T less threatening if we are sitting closer. Who knows...maybe she will feel more threatening. | |||
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One time I took my shoes off and put my feet up on the coffee table. She didn't say anything about it. I felt really comfortable. It was the most comfortable I have ever felt there. My sessions with her are 1.5 hours so I really want to get as comfortable as possible to get the most out of my session. | |||
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Well, those are all good reasons so I don't think its going to be a big deal. I like the idea of finding out how threatening she'll feel. I've had a similar idea but wasn't yet able to do it. | |||
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I wonder what T2 would do if I sit in her chair. hehe. I so want to try that. | |||
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I'm pretty sure she would let you. | |||
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I don't know. I don't think she would. She might think its some kind of power play. Her chair is a special ergonomic Herman Miller chair, I guess because she sits most of the day she needs it to be ergonomic. Not sure she would be willing to allow me to kick her out of her chair. | |||
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An ergonomic Herman Millar chair? Sounds pretty comfy to me. Try it! I sit directly opposite from my T as well. There is another chair A LOT closer to her which is there for couple therapy. I hate that chair becaus I always worry she'll make my mum join a session (I know she would never do this without my permission). But, come to think of it... it really is closer to where she sits, so it would surely chang the dynamics. Will give this some thought  PF, I like your idea of sitting on the floor. In general, I don't like sitting on chairs as it makes me feel exposed/unable to move. At home, my favourite spot is close to the radiator... in a corner, warm, less prominent spot. I suppose I could do that in T's office as well, but I don't dare I guess. *** "Sanity calms, but madness is more interesting" - Russell | |||
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I sit in the same place every time. My T. does a lot of family counseling, so there are lots of seating options. We both usually sit in the same place, though he's invited me to try different chairs if I want to. (Like, when I busted my wrist I tried sitting in every seat he had -- including his! Ended up sticking with the same spot.  )"Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter, and those who matter don't mind." — Dr. Seuss | |||
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I wonder what T2 would do if I sit on her lap. | |||
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Typically I sit on the right hand side of the couch. I always go in and take my shoes off and then sit down. Sometimes I sit on the left side of the couch, sometimes I sit in the floor, sometimes we are up walking around a lot. It varies depending on what we are doing. STRM * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * "I can't explain myself, I'm afraid, Sir, because I'm not myself you see." ~Alice "Owning our story can be hard but not nearly as difficult as spending our lives running from it. Only when we are brave enough to explore the darkness will we discover the infinite power of our light." Brené Brown | |||
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LG, If you sat on her lap, she would probably disappear because she is so tiny. My t has lots of couches and choices and I always sit in the same spot. When I was trying to figure out why I was so uncomfortable with him, I thought I would try a new position to see if that helped but I didn't. The only unpredictable thing I ever did with him was once when I felt like he was putting a lot of pressure on me about something. I bought these rootbeer barrels. Do you know them? I love them. Anyway, I pulled them out and asked T if he would like one and he said yes, so I threw him one. And, then I threw him another and then another and another. And he started to get flustered and he said, okay stop, enough. And, I said, yes, that's right. Stop, enough. He told me later that that was actually very effective. Oh, gosh, the risks I take in therapy. It's no wonder I've been there for three years. I don't know, LG, it might be fun just to change things up and sit in the rocking chair??? A Native American elder once described his own inner struggles in this manner: "Inside of me there are two dogs. One of the dogs is mean and evil. The other dog is good. The mean dog fights the good dog all the time." When asked which dog wins, he reflected for a moment and replied, "The one I feed the most." | |||
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LOL, that is quite a visual picturing you throwing those rootbeer barrels at him (and yes I do know what you are referring to). I do think T2 would disappear if I sat on her. She'd probably suffocate. | |||
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What do you mean walking around? Do you guys go on walks? | |||
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