Seablue,

Those are great songs.

I am constantly finding new music and listening to new stuff. I think I have 500 songs on my mp3 right now. Insane.

I found another one today that I hadn't heard yet.

Love Come by Sarah McLachlan

Love come light up the shadows
Let the beauty of you enter in
For I have hungered for a tender touch
A long and lonely time
I've seen much more than I want to
So much anger so much pain
A line is drawn and lives are torn apart
The wounds too hard to hear

Love has taken me in
Lifted my load
And in this empty space a wonder grows
A dream of some kind of peace
I could hold up as true
I never knew anything about love before you

You call and I come running
I can sense the flood before it breaks
And I'd do anything to dry your tears
To let you know you're safe

Love has taken me in
Lifted my load
And in this empty space a wonder grows
A dream of some kind of peace
I could hold up as true
I never know anything about love before you

Love come light up the shadows
Let the beauty of you enter in
For I have hungered for a tender touch
A long and lonely time

monte

quote:

I wish I could use it as a tool in counselling, but never would as it is not something my T shares and so it would feel awkward, embarrassing. He too is more at home with 'concrete ' things I think.

I felt the same, kept hearing all these songs that I realised explained how I was feeling much better than I ever could. One day when I was feeling in a very difficult place, I took in some music that spoke to me. I told T that the words expressed more than I ever could in my awkward easily frightened language of now, took a deep breath and played it.....that was the first time I really cried with her, so some button was pressed I guess. It felt very powerful and moving to hear the words being sung out in the room, I would definitely do it again, but then again, my T is open to trying anything to get me unstuck right now.

It might be worth you suggesting it monte, if it helps you express, then that's more important in the long run, than what your T might think. You might inspire him....

starfish

Oh dear, hope I haven't made it worse

I really wasn't sure if it was the right thing to do either monte....and the song I played wasn't really my musical taste - just spoke loudly with the words.

My T is quite inventive - it's usually me that is resisting trying new things I think. So I think I even surprised myself with my boldness!! But monte you have those amazing drawings, oh my goodness who needs words when you have it all before you in pictures?! My limitation for drawing starts and stops with a stick man!!

starfish

Has anyone ever heard of Rachel Diggs?

Her song "Wanted" touches me so much. When I actually read the lyrics, I thought this made a perfect therapy song. "It might not be obvious
But you’re not alone" "You could tell me all you need. Its all right, You’re wanted"

*sigh*

http://listen.grooveshark.com/#/s/Wanted/2U3zVp

I can only find it on grooveshark, but I find all my best songs there and on Pandora. Her whole album is awesome.

Lyrics:

You don’t think you’re special
You don’t think you’re strong
But when the sky is falling
You feel like you belong

It might not be obvious
But you’re not alone
We’re going to let you wander
But never on your own

And I don’t know if I can help you
You could tell me all you need
Its all right, You’re wanted
Tonight it’s alright
You’re wanted

And your expectations
Are killing you slow
You’re getting what you wanted
But pain is all you know

You’ve got a new life now
There’s much that you see
But those that really know you
Are few and far between

And I don’t know if they will help you
Do you tell them all you need?
Its all right you’re wanted
Tonight it’s alright
You’re wanted

And you couldn’t be more wrong
When you say it won’t be long
Til the stars are gone
And you, you’ve got to see
When you bleed you’re never free
‘cause life’s not that easy.

But tonight its alright
You’re wanted
Tonight it’s alright
You’re wanted
Tonight it’s alright
You’re wanted

thing song just struck me.
reminds me of hope, of something of the process of healing, of the questions that ache...
not really sure why it struck me.

Someday by Rob Thomas

"You can go
You can start all over again
You can try to find a way to make another day go by
You can hide
Hold all your feelings inside
You can try to carry on when all you wanna do is cry

And maybe someday we’ll figure all this out
Try to put an end to all our doubt
Try to find a way to make things better now that
Maybe someday we’ll live our lives out loud
We’ll be better off somehow, someday

Now we wait
And try to find another mistake
If you throw it all away then maybe you can change your mind
You can run
And when everything is over and done
You can shine a little light on everything around you
Man it’s good to be someone

And maybe someday we’ll figure all this out
Try to put an end to all our doubt
Try to find a way to make things better now that
Maybe someday we’ll live our lives out loud
We’ll be better off somehow, someday

I don’t wanna wait
I just wanna know
I just wanna hear you tell me so
Give it to me straight
Tell it to me slow

‘Cuz maybe someday we’ll figure all this out
We’ll put an end to all our doubt
Try to find a way to just to feel better now
Maybe someday we’ll live our lives out loud
We’ll be better off somehow, someday

‘Cuz sometimes we don’t really notice
Just how good it can get
So maybe we should start all over
Start all over, again

‘Cuz sometimes we don’t really notice
Just how good it can get
So maybe we should start all over
Start all over, again"

Few more.

Rowing - by Patty Griffin

As I row row row
Going so slow slow slow
Just down below me is the old sea
Just down below me is the old sea

Nobody knows knows knows
So many things things things
So out of range
Sometimes so strange
Sometimes so sweet
Sometimes so lonely

The further I go
More letters from home never arrive
And I'm alone
All of the way
All of the way
Alone and alive

You just have to go go go
Where I don't know know know
This is the thing some said
Somebody told me a long time ago

Rowing Youtube Cover
(pretty good cover though)


Breathe in Breathe Out - By Matt Kearney

Breathe in breathe out
Tell me all of your doubt
And everybody bleeds this way
Just the same

Breathe in breathe out
Move on and break down
If everyone goes away
I will stay

We push and pull
And I fall down sometimes
And I'm not letting go
You hold the other line

'Cause there is a light
In your eyes
In your eyes

Hold on and hold tight
If I'm out of your sight
And everything keeps moving on moving on

Hold on hold tight
Make it through another night
And everyday
There comes a song with the dawn

Look left look right
To the moon in the night
And everything under the stars
Is in your arms

Breathe in Breathe Out


Ooh Child


True Colors

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There are a few songs that really make me think of my P...some of them are songs that I listened to back when he stopped seeing me back in 2003 and really connected with the way I was feeling at the time.

I WOULD HAVE LOVED YOU ANYWAY (Trisha Yearwood)

If I'd've known the way that this would end
If I'd've read the last page first
If I'd've had the strength to walk away
If I'd've known how this would hurt

(Chorus
I would've loved you anyway
I'd do it all the same
Not a second I would change
Not a touch that I would trade
Had I known my heart would break
I'd've loved you anyway
It's bittersweet to look back now
At memories withered on the vine
Just to hold you close to me
For a moment in time

(Repeat chorus)

(Bridge
And, even if I'd seen it coming
You'd still've seen me running
Straight into your arms
(Repeat chorus)

This one is what I want from my P and everything I wish I knew about him that I just cant.

I WANT TO KNOW YOU INSIDE OUT:

The biggest lie you ever told
Your deepest fear about growin' old
The loneliest night you ever spent
The angriest letter you never sent
The girl you swore you'd never leave
The one you kissed on New Year's Eve
The sweetest dream you had last night
Your darkest hour, your hardest fight

I wanna know you, like I know myself
I'm waiting for you, there ain't no one else
I wanna know you inside out

I wanna dig down deep, I wanna loose some sleep
I wanna scream and shout, I wanna know you inside out
I wanna take my time, I wanna know your mine
You know there ain't no doubt, I wanna know you inside out

The saddest song you ever heard
The most you said with just one word
The loneliest prayer you every prayed
The truest vow you ever made
What makes you laugh, what makes you cry
What makes you mad, what gets you by
Your highest high, your lowest low
These are the things I wanna know

I wanna dig down deep, I wanna loose some sleep
I wanna scream and shout, I wanna know you inside out
I wanna take my time, I wanna know your mine
You know there ain't no doubt, I wanna know you inside out

I wanna know your soul, I wanna lose control
Come on and let it out, I wanna know you inside out

I wanna dig down deep, I wanna loose some sleep
I wanna scream and shout, I wanna know you inside out
I wanna take my time, I wanna know your mine
You know there ain't no doubt, I wanna know you inside out

The biggest lie you ever told
Your deepest fear about growin' old
The loneliest night you ever spent

What makes you laugh, what makes you cry

And this one is one that makes me think of the time I saw my P right after he stopped seeing me and he asked how I was doing and I just said fine...but I wasnt....I used to cry when I heard this song during that time period. And now it reminds me of what I want to say when I see him in session but get to scared to so I just tell him nothing is going on or that I am fine.

WHAT I REALLY MEANT TO SAY BY CYNDI THOMPSON


It took me by surprise
When I saw you standin' there
Close enough to touch
Breathin' the same air
You asked me how I'd been
I guess that's when I smiled and said just fine
Oh, but baby I was lyin'

What I really meant to say
Is I'm dyin' here inside
And I miss you more each day
There's not a night I haven't cried
And baby, here's the truth
I'm still in love with you
(And, that's what I really meant to say)

And as you walked away
The echo of my words
Cut just like a knife
Cut so deep it hurt
I held back the tears
Held on to my pride and watched you go
I wonder if you'll ever know

What I really meant to say
Is I'm dyin' here inside
And I miss you more each day
There's not a night I haven't cried
And baby, here's the truth
I'm still in love with you
(And, that's what I really meant to say)

What I really meant to say
Is I'm really not that strong
No matter how I try
I'm still holdin' on
And here's the honest truth
I'm still in love with you
And, that's what I really meant to say

That's what I really meant to say
That's what I really meant to say

"In My Arms" by Plumb

your baby blues
so full of wonder
your curley qs
your contagious smile
and as i watch
you start to grow and
all I can do is hold you tight

knowing
clouds will rage and
storms will race in
but you will be safe
in my arms
rains will pour down
waves will crash around
but you will be safe
in my arms

story books are full of fairy tales
of kings and queens and the bluest skies
My heart is torn
just in knowing
you'll someday see
the truth from lies

when the
clouds will rage and
storms will race in
but you will be safe
in my arms
rains will pour down
waves will crash around
but you will be safe
in my arms

Castles they might crumble
dreams may not come true
but you are never all alone
because I will always
always love you

when the
clouds will rage and
storms will race in
but you will be safe
in my arms
rains will pour down
waves will crash around
but you will be safe
in my arms

in my arms

I stumbled upon this song on the radio about a year ago on my way to therapy, and now listen to it every week before I go in. It has some spiritual elements to it, which works for me. The whole, "surrender to God" theme.

It's by Sanctus Real and it's called "Whatever You're Doing"

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=06AgY5Xoavw

The song starts out: "It's time for healing, time to move on. It's time to fix what's been broken too long. Time to make right, what has been wrong, it's time to find my way to where I belong..."