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Careful HB, or we are going to have to bring those XL hats over to this thread too!

Welcome to the forum and I am sure we all have as much to learn from your experiences and wisdom as you have learned from ours.

Wow HB, you say it so well. As someone who has also just joined recently, I am in awe as to how well everyone shares and articulates such difficult experiences. I have learned so much, in such a short time. I hope that someday I will have all this figured out so much better and that I can be a support to others. Until that time, I'll just keep reading and soaking in what others post here. And sometimes adding my own goofy perspective of things.

PL

HB,
Don't feel bad about not finding pages 2 and 3, I didn't figure out how to add a picture until I'd been around six months. Once you add one the system actually "backfits" all your posts so it looks like you always knew what you were doing. I thought that was very considerate of whoever designed the system.

And welcome, thanks for (formally) introducing yourself. It has been wonderful having so many new people start posting because the strength that you already see here is because of everyone sharing. Its amazing what you can learn from other people's experiences. So thank you for joining and helping make it an even better place.

Oh, and I like Pollyannas!! (And occasionally have trouble saying serious enough, I'm a sucker for a funny line.)

AG

There are two more pages of pics to choose from?!?!

Oh wait, Mona is on page 3. I guess I did know that there are 3 pages.... Anyone else's memory shot?

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Anyone else's memory shot?

What were we talking about?

I'm still waiting for more options on the avatar. Linus is still not available and probably never will be and there are no puppies. There are a few cats to choose from, but no dogs. I would choose a siberian husky or golden retriever (if I could). But if Shrinklady __could__get a hold of Linus that would be great. But I digress.

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Hey I didn't know that there were 3 pages of avatars. So I changed mine. Thanks.

Nice to get to know you HB. Isn't this a great place I love coming here.

Kats

There is a dog but IMHO it is seriously creepy looking.

With a name like puppy lover, I would have definitely chosen a cute puppy. But to be honest with you, mine looks like I did as a kid. But I guess without the corn cob. I guess if I have to learn to understand these "kid" feelings, I might as ell portray myself as a kid. Although chronologically, I am waaaaaaaaay past that.

PL

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But to be honest with you, mine looks like I did as a kid.

You can stop any time PL. I had blonde hair and pig tails when I was a little girl. Oh well, if I share a parallel universe with someone it might as well be someone as cool as you. (tehehe) That's really not so creepy.

Yeah, I know about those "kid feelings." I tell my T I feel like such a child in her presence. She says "that's good." Easy for her to say.

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I tell my T I feel like such a child in her presence. She says "that's good." Easy for her to say.

Yeah, I really get that. I keep telling my T I feel like a 10 yr. old. She says that we all have different parts of ourselves and it is ok to experience that in therapy. I have a hard time understanding that. I deal with 8yr. olds all day long, how can it be ok to feel like one of them?

And, thanks JM. I guess we can be "cool" together. You're right. It isn't creepy at all.

PL

I have finally decided on an avatar. I smiled when I saw it because it is very appropriate to what happened with my T yesterday.

For the first time in a year that I've known him I shook his hand. Okay, you may think that this is no big deal but it was for me. You see, I have never really touched him in any way. We never shook hands, not even the day we met. I was struggling to sometimes believe that he was really real. I brought it up once in session and he said that if someone offered their hand he would not refuse it but that he does not normally shake hands w/clients. So yesterday I offered and he took my hand without hesitation. We said a few words to each other... it was when I was leaving. And it was only later that I realized that we did not really "shake" hands. We sort of just held hands for a few minutes and it felt so right. And so that is the reason behind my new avatar.

TN

True North,
That is awesome! and wow, what a perfect avatar. And I totally understand how being able to actually make physical contact really helps to reinforce the reality of the relationship. My T, while not doing hugs, shakes my hand at the end of every session and its always an important moment. Enjoy!

AG

I got me T's blanket for the holidays.
I get to hug her and hold her hand.
But I just 14 and i guess I'm lucky for that!

Thanks for your kind words about me losing a friend.

Samy

Samy,
I'm really glad that your get to hold her hand and hug your T, she sounds like a really special lady.

AG