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((((Yaku)))),

So sorry you're hurting so much. I can understand the feeling of needing but not being okay with expressing the need or of accepting others meeting the need. I struggle with the same thing--especially with my T. I wish I had some great words of advice, but like you I am too struggling right now. I just hold on to the hope that as we heal this stuff through our therapy we will eventually be able to accept that we have legitimate needs and that it is healthy for us to ask others to meet them and also to accept it when they do meet our needs. Hang in there Yaku. Hugs!!

MTF

I know it is hard to continue asking, and to continue receiving is even more painful..but you are doing it, and that is the most important thing right now. At some point, hopefully it will feel ok to have needs, and to ask to have them met. In the meantime, all we can do is keep going through this cycle until we learn that it really is safe and ok and normal.

hugs, Yaku...sorry it is all so hard right now.

BB

Yaku,

I struggle with asking for too much too. And, I worry about my T moving things around for me to accommodate me. It feels like too much. But the truth of the matter is, that I am so flooded right now, like you, and I really need the extra emotional support. I feel so much better knowing it's in place. My life runs smoother. It's one less thing to worry about. I am so glad you asked for what you wanted even though it was hard to do and it's hard to accept!!!