I've often wondered, hey, what's he writing there? Used to bother a bit. But once he referred to them as his "precious" notes (not in a ironic way, at all, he really meant it, and I've forgiven it ever since. Kind of made me feel like he cares about me. But to have them handed over to another T must be making you feel like two people are talking about you behind your back, in a way, and yeah, that would be a powerless feeling. Who wouldn't want to listen in? Plus as an intelligent person who takes her own healing (can I say her-? I know you are a womble ) very seriously, I imagine it would feel like something that could be helpful for you to know is being withheld from you as if you are a child who cannot handle such information, "we adults know best, we'll tell you when you are older..." Could be pretty powerless feelings from the past, for sure. I hope you will find some resolution...let us know how your appointment went tonight and if you were able to bring it up- we are cheering you on outside the cabin door!

BB

Hi all,

Just wanted to let you know I had my first session with new T last night, and it went really, really well. I brought up the fact I was feeling weird about the notes. She said she had read the summary and the family tree, but had decided for herself not to read the rest, because it felt intrusive, given that I hadn't chosen to share those things with her. She said she would rather work on the basis of our interactions. She also said the notes were mine, and that any time I wanted to read them she was happy for me to do so, and I could book an appointment just for that.

She won SO many trust points with me for dealing with it this way - big relief.

Jones

I am so glad, on so many levels she sounds like she has her head well screwed on.

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She said she had read the summary and the family tree, but had decided for herself not to read the rest, because it felt intrusive, given that I hadn't chosen to share those things with her

Perfect That is wholly appropriate and so very sensible that she wants to form her own opinions and judgements (in a non-judgemental way of course ) She is right , it IS intrusive and information that you should choose to share if and when you wanted to.

I am also glad that she gave you the opportunity to read the notes too, maybe the urgency might diminish now that you can if you want - it often happens that way doesn't it? Especially as she is not placing so much importance on them herself.

I can hear your relief and am so glad Jones, and pleased that you have started to trust her already. That's great news

starfish

Oh wow, Jones...in your other thread I said I LIKE the sound of this T...now let me change that to say I LOVE the sound of this T!!! +1000 points for trust!

I'm doing cartwheels for you Jones!! This made my day, thank you for sharing it!

SG

This sounds like a really good beginning! I think you are going to be glad you stuck with your instincts and insisted on this T over the younger one. I am looking forward to hearing more about her. And you deserve some credit too for being up front with her, broaching the subject of the notes. Good things are on the horizon, J!

Good one Jones! I really like that she didn’t read the notes herself - that says a lot of good things about her. Do you think you will get around to reading them yourself after all? At least it’s good to know that if you ever feel you need to, you have the free and open option.

I’m so glad your first meeting went well (((( Jones ))))

LL

That's fantastic, Jones. What a great way to start your relationship!

all I have to say is- "Goody, goody, gumdrops!"

So happy, Jones, and so happy that you took care of your needs by asking for this T! Just feeling so proud of YOU, on so many levels, here.

BB

Hi Jones,
That was just awesome to hear! Both of you handled that perfectly. I have a good feeling about this T, I really appreciate the respect that she's showing you. Thanks for letting us know!

AG

Jones,

That is GREAT!!! I am so happy that the first session went so well and that she is so respectful of you.

Jones, that was the best of all answers she could have given and I'm so happy she seems sensitive to your needs. This seems to be a good indication that things will go well with this new T. I wish you the best!

TN

Thanks all!!! I have a really good feeling about this too.