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And of course you're entitled to boundaries, everyone is. It is your decision what information you want to share, and how and when you wish to share it. And that definitely includes your T.
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I find this a compelling thought. It seems like we are always being schooled on setting boundaries and that they are a "good" thing and a "good" skill to have. And yet...when I set some boundaries with my T. It is then labeled resistance. I'm trying to figure this out.
She can have boundaries...but I cannot? What is up with that? I often feel as if I have no power in my relationship to my T. The only power I do have is in what I choose to share with her. Or...the ultimate power of the execution boundary. The power of goodbye.
When this comes up for me...I wonder if that is when the power structure of the therapy should be altered a bit. I know when I am being resistant, stubborn. Sometimes I'm not sure why...maybe resistance is not always a "bad" thing but a way for us to practice setting boundaries? I dunno...just a thought.

Soulfuldaze:
I never told my T about this site. He looks/researches stuff on the internet though, i know that. I would never tell him because he would recognize me. But in a way, i wish he could read these posts. i say stuff in here i would never tell him, but he probably really needs to know!!

I completely agree. I did tell my T about this forum on Monday and I only discovered it on Saturday. I've already posted things I would not talk about to her with such ease. I told her what I like about this site is how people express themselves so honestly and with such heart. And the support given here is amazing and so soothing. But, in saying that, I still would not want her to know my feelings via a forum. I would rather be direct. And I like my space, too.

Thanks for the input...

For me...I have decided to keep this forum for me and not share it with my T. (I need a place to gripe about what is not working for me and a place to bounce ideas off all of you and discover what I actually need to talk to her about.)

I think my T could certainly benefit from reading the forum but doubt that she would take the time to do so. (she doesn't do email...even though I have encouraged her.)
I live in a cell phone dead spot and sometimes contact is difficult without having to get into my car and drive around until I find an adequate signal. Email would be much easier for me but she seems to think she will not be able to "read" me via email. I disagree. She does like voice mail and has often commented that my messages, post session, have been quite helpful for her to understand what I am thinking.

I haven't let her read my blog yet either (it is still in the development stage so not worth reading yet.) Typing is much more "stream of consciousness" for me and I get much more out in less time so a blog is good. I'll post a link if it becomes something that any of you might be interested in.
I do let her read my journal when I take the time to write in it. It is left mostly for the alters...sometimes I don't even look at it. LOL...makes me wonder why I lug it around.

So...it appears that we are all of similar minds about sharing this forum. I still have no objections to any therapist that would like to read these posts. I have just decided that I want my own place to *itch and moan without undue editing, or trying to guess what she may be thinking about my posts.
If she happens to stumble into this forum...I'm pretty sure she will know who I am right away (which makes me wonder if I should delete the pic of my dog...hmmmm) Naw....I can't be that paranoid. If she's here and wants to read...then good for her! I hope she will find it a valuable resource and give her some new insight on how she can best meet the needs of her clients and/or client.

Thank you all for your participation in my question...keep it going. And for any therapist's out there reading [please no impostors we don't need the confusion, and we will know!]...help us out here...don't just lurk and read...register and post your comments. I'm sure we could all benefit from your thoughts about forums like this.

SD