I was just wondering if any of you tell your T about posting on this site and if any of them actually read your posts?
I don't care one way or the other. I am just curious.

I've told my T that I post on a forum. I've even read her some of the stuff I've written. I did tell her though that I wouldn't tell her what site this was because she would be able to recognize me immediately. She knows that I research just about anything that she and I talk about, and sometimes she is concerned that I will get conflicting information. I did tell her that everyone on this forum is positive and supportive of each other and she seemed happy that I have a place to talk about things.

I think that the fact that we post anonymously here, helps us honestly get things off our chests. We have become friends and care very much for each other, and I think it would be much more difficult to bear our all to each other if we were physical friends. If I knew my T was reading this, I would be more intimidated. Not that I want to keep secrets from her, but I want to tell her things on my terms and not online.

PL

funny you should say that sd, i've been wondering about that too. i think i would mind! i mean i won't poke into his private life and he can bloody well stay out of mine! if that makes sense (boundaries??? are we allowed those too???)

I told mine about this site and i worry that shes figured out who i am on here and is not joining but is reading what i say without becoming a member.

I've definitely talked to my T about the forum, describing what its for and the kind of people posting (wonderful people!) but I have gone NOWHERE near the name of it. My T would recognize me in a couple posts (might not even take that long.) I've worried about it but then I've realized that I have pretty much told him everything I've posted on here. BUT and this is a big but, this is a place for me to come and be able to speak freely about what's going on, especially as it deals with him and if I thought he was reading it would really hamper my ability to just let it rip. Sometimes posting here is an important way to process something BEFORE I talk to him about it. So I don't mind if he's reading, I just don't want to know about it. OK, so my T, if you're out there, keep it to yourself!

And of course you're entitled to boundaries, everyone is. It is your decision what information you want to share, and how and when you wish to share it. And that definitely includes your T.

And let's face it, most of what everyone here is always saying is "tell your T" Hey, we need another T shirt!

AG

I told my son's T about this site, in fact I sent her the link when I was first researching transference because what everyone was posting was so similar to what I was feeling. That was before I started posting. She came and read a little but I doubt she ever came back. I actually kind of wish she had kept reading when I started posting, then she would have a better idea of what I was actually going through. I have a feeling, though, that thinking she was reading would influence some of my posts, and I would worry non-stop about whether she was reading and what she was thinking about me.

With my new T it's different. I trust her but I don't seem to have as much of an attachment to her as I did my son's T. I guess what I'm saying is our roles are very clear to me and I'm fine with them. I told her I come to an online forum but did not give her the name. Not that I wouldn't if she asked... I give her my journal every week with many more private thoughts than I post here, and I don't find myself holding back there. I don't think that her reading here would change that.

I can understand NOT wanting your T to read here. Everyone has their own boundaries and has every right to them.

OW

I can understand not wanting your T to read, too, but this _is_ a public forum. Ts can come here and read like anybody, as folks have said. I don't tell my Ts what the site is, but if they're here, they're here like everybody else. Hey, they've got their stuff too, right?

And you know Wynne, I really think a lot of Ts could benefit from reading here. I think it would provide a lot of insight into what therapy looks like from the patient's point of view. There are things a T can't ask their own patient because of boundaries that I think they could get insight into by reading here.

I just don't want to know about it and I want it to be somebody else's T.

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I just don't want to know about it and I want it to be somebody else's T.

AG

I'm with you there!

PL

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Originally posted by puppy lover:

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I just don't want to know about it and I want it to be somebody else's T.

AG

I'm with you there!

PL

Me x3, too.

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Hey, they've got their stuff too, right?

wynne, what a scandalaous notion

well. after piping up in session today i think i'm expression a bit protectiveness about 'my' spaces (sorry. i know it's silly as it's not really mine to begin with anyway, but there you go). never had any to speak of. i mean, my mum would follow me to the bathroom, have a pee whilst i have a bath or the other way round and worse. i do get you on paper, but.... KEEP OFF MY PATCH is what it feels like at the moment.

god does that sound dumb sorry....

Songbird,
The last thing that sounded was dumb!! I grew up with no boundaries too and that's why MY SPACE, my feelings, my voice, my info are all really important to me. Its very important that we know where we end and other people begin, we are much more healthy for it. And when you don't have that it can cause a lot of damage. Of course you'd feel protective about that. Don't make me get out the HTML slapper, you're new here and I'd hate to use it so soon!

AG

i think i have to rename myself weeping willow... AG, thanks!!!! .... is there a big hug/kiss icon somewhere? it's such an ENORMOUS experience to hear my feelings are ok, even if the expression of them is far from smooth...

i think i'm about 5 years old today... (today????????) i'm even having pigtails!

I always forget that T have there own problems and stuff.
My T sees a T and thinks all T's should.

Songbird don't feel bad or dumb. These are complicated feelings and trying to make sense of it all can be really hard.

What color ribbons for your hair??