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LG,

I hope you don't mind but the session gave me the laugh of the day. Your T sounded so funny. I actually loved your reactions to her. You did react, maybe just not the way she was hoping. I often feel like that, not getting things until days later.

Liese

Absolutely!!

In the early days of therapy, it was comical. One time, he crossed his arms and made his posture completely closed, and I said, "Hey! Are you making fun of me??" We both laughed, and he apologized...said he wasn't trying to "shame" me, just encourage me to be more open.

And he's been vulnerable in moments, I know, in order to increase my vulnerability.

Oh, therapists and their tricks!!! Often, they work! So I'm grateful.

I think my P often shows how hesitant he is when he is talking, to 'allow' me to not be so embarrassed about being hesitant myself.
He also is very good at admitting when he makes a mistake - which has the knock on effect of making me feel very safe: if he is open about making mistakes then I am not having to second guess what is going on when he is making a mistake and might cover it up, for example.
I know they are trained to listen to their own feelings and body sensations which could be mirroring the ones in us, that we are denying or keeping silent about. the book "attachment in Psychotherapy" is really helpful about that.