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"I'm sorry, I didn't understand what you just said, I was busy being scared"

i have absolutely done that many times myself. he is so good at containing his own emotions, i guess, that i usually think he's just bored to tears with me because he just sits there, patiently waiting for me to compose myself and get my act back together.

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we are so primed for rejection and disaster but at the same time so wildly hopeful that something different will occur that its emotionally exhausting. And you spend half your time trying to calm your fears to feel safer and half the time trying to calm your hopes so you aren't so dissappointed when the seemingly inevitable disaster occurs.

amen!!

i used to think of myself as an intellectual before i started reading these posts. how do you express yourselves so well? it's awesome!!

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"I'm sorry, I didn't understand what you just said, I was busy being scared"

i have absolutely done that many times myself. he is so good at containing his own emotions, i guess, that i usually think he's just bored to tears with me because he just sits there, patiently waiting for me to compose myself and get my act back together.

Heh. Whereas my Tfella had a slightly different reaction: I have a stunningly poker blank face, pretty much any time. My "listening" face and my "scared all to the dickens and mentally checked out" face are nearly identical. So Tfelle sighed and was like, "Um, we totally need to work out a signal for when that's going on."

I think he's since gotten better at reading me, but at that point he really had no chance. *pats Tfella onna head through the interwebs* He tried, though!