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He is very kind, but I DO feel like such a burden to him--which makes no sense, because (intellectually) I know he makes a living taking on the "burdens".
He also, however, has mentioned that the therapy thing is "not forever" (I've been going about once or maybe twice a month for 4 months now) which scares me to death and makes me kind of feel like he wants to hurry up and get rid of me as a patient, maybe.

I told mje terpist I'm probably the worst client her has ever had! And i wonder if her wants to give up on me, but she say it like goes two ways, like we both have to agree if it ending forever.

samy

Samy

My T says the same thing. It is up to me to decide when we are done. Just wish I could remember that when I start thinking that she is going to drop me.

PL

thank you for sharing, Samy. I guess we both short-change our self-worth(s) sometimes. Glad your T could give you the reassurance you needed to hear.

I ring up alot. I think that it must be annoying at times.

She neve gets impatient though.

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He is very kind, but I DO feel like such a burden to him--which makes no sense, because (intellectually) I know he makes a living taking on the "burdens".

I was thinking about the trueness of this statement again and I realize that I mistakenly view what I pay my T as an hourly fee or in session time. It would probably be better if I looked at it as an all encompassing fee. Obviously, whatever fee they choose is for all the services they render. We don't think anything of the time they spend reviewing our case, dealing with insurance companies and so forth. So when they tell us it's ok to call, it's ok to call. It's all covered, right? It's all part of our mental health care process that they take on when they accept our case in accordance to the services they render.

We can all logically conclude this, but its believing we are worthwhile of what we feel is their precious time between sessions that needs to change and I think it does eventually. They already believe we are.

JM

That's a very good point JM.

I never felt bad calling my doctor after hours when I was pregnant, or calling the pediatrician, so why is this any different? And when I think about it, I really don't look at my own job as a 9-5. I think about it after hours and I do work after hours too and I don't feel annoyed, in fact sometimes it makes me feel good to put forth the extra effort when it was really needed. So if I do that in my job, which is not nearly as critical as a therapist's job, I can easily see how a they would as well.

OW