Hi everyone!

I'm new. *waves*

May or may not sign in frequently. Don't know yet. I won't have much access to the 'net soon. We'll see.

'Conceptual Quitter' refers to letting go of old self-detrimental habits. There's physical quitting of something - that involves not engaging in the behaviour. Conceptual quitting is where you don't engage in the concept.

So it's like "I'm not going to do X because I don't want to and it's no longer a part of me", as opposed to "I really want to do X, but I can't, because I'm told it's not healthy".

I came up with that one myself...hope it makes sense!

This says nothing of what I want to say. But you know. It is what it is!

Cheers

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'Conceptual Quitter' refers to letting go of old self-detrimental habits. There's physical quitting of something - that involves not engaging in the behaviour. Conceptual quitting is where you don't engage in the concept.

Hi CQ, I think that's brilliant! Personally I know that is the only way to be succesful in giving up an unhealthy or unproductive pattern. For me it is alcohol and I had to decide on day 1 that "I no longer drink alcohol." I gave up the thought patterns, the ideas, the excuses, the behavior, everything about it had to go so that it wouldn't germinate back into my new lifestyle.

So I like your concept and I embrace it!
Nice to meet you btw.
JM

Hi CQ!

Nice to meet you, and love the name! My T is working with me on this very same concept. I like how you've described it.

I hope you sign in and post frequently. The first day I posted here was a turning point in my life, and it's been a huge support every day since.

We're looking forward to getting to know you.

OW

Hi CQ

Nice to have you join us! As you can see, we all care very much about what each of us is going through and not only do we give each other support, but we learn so much from each other's experiences. I hope you become a "regular" as I'm looking forward to learning a lot from you.

PL

Hi CQ

Welcome to the forum. I found this site in November and it is wonderful. Lots of good advice, a shoulder to lean on if you need, and friendship.

I haven't posted much, but I will be back in full soon.

Welcome.

Kats

Phwoah! This level of response has blown me away.

I love that my idea is being embraced (even worked on prior to my posting it!), and yes, feel free to use it, Hummingbird! I'm glad I can be of help there!

I'm moving house soon, and one of my addictions is the 'net...and seeing as I'll be living alone, I've decided not to hook the 'net up at home. So at tops, I'll be online frequent(ish)ly about 2 more weeks or so.

So if I suddenly drop off the face of this beautiful community's earth, it's not me being callous and saying "hi, bye!"

So why post this one?, you may ask. I was in a bit of a head space last night, and you guys seemed okay But, as stated earlier, the response has blown me away.

In a nutshell about me, I'm going to be okay, and be of service to people in my life, with indomitable strength. I've learned the hard way that this is impossible without first being of service to oneself. So I'm wading through the at-times impossibly crippling phases of depression, anxiety and...moments where physical movement is impossible - all with the end in sight, even if it does seem really far away at times.

It just frustrates me at times that people around me see my strength and seem blinded to the fact that I could fail.

I know I won't. But some validation on that front when I'm frozen in terror would be nice.

Seriously though, I've beautiful people around me, and the above is largely about my current state of self-sympathy. So I'm going to wind this post up here, because it has the potential to become quite circular, and work constructively for the rest of the day.

It's what I do; ride the wave...and my manipulation of my OWN movements on it is steadily improving.

I'll drop in on other threads and say stuff throughout the week

Thanks, guys!

CQ,
Is it ok if I call you CQ? Sorry for the delayed welcome, I didn't have a chance to post yesterday. Welcome to the forums, I'm really glad you decided to join us.

I love your name and the concept behind it. It so describes what so much of the work in therapy is about, the shift that needs to take place in our thinking about ourselves.

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It just frustrates me at times that people around me see my strength and seem blinded to the fact that I could fail.

This is a really good place to display both. One of the things I love most about this forum is that when you have successes people rejoice with you and when you're struggling, terrified and confused, they come alongside and help you get through it. Looking forward to watching you surf the wave whenever you can post.

AG

It's always nice to 'see' new people!

Scott et all

Welcome CQ. We would love to have you here as often and as long as you are able to stay. I'm glad you decided to say hello and all the best on your move.

True North

Very cool name! Hope to hear more about you and your journey!