Do you think my T knows I look at her FB page quite often?
Does Facebook let the page owner know who's looking at them?
I had heard they don't a while back. I just saw something where you can get an app to find out who is looking at your profile on FB. Do any of you know?
Do you all look your T's up on Facebook?

I'm really not a stalker. It's just comforting to see her face if she has one up on her profile.

My T doesn't have a page on facebook. Thank goodness. But I do have a photo of her from her website that I look at often. It's an attachment thing, I think.

My T's facebook page is set to about as private as you can get. And she doesn't have a picture of herself as the profile picture. I know this because yes, I googled her! There's a whole thread about my google discovery back in February.

I agree, it isn't stalkerish, it's an attachment thing like Alpaca said. I do have a picture of my T that I found, and she's ok with me having it. To open the picture and see her face when I'm in a bad space is incredibly comforting.

I think Ts have to be used to being googled or facestalked, it kind of goes with the territory. I actually google all my doctors/health care providers so I can be a little more familiar with their background/areas of expertise.

Thank you! I don't feel so weird now!
My T has her FB page as open as you can get. I think that's strange. I have mine as private as I can get it.

They can't tell who has looked at their page. If My T had one - I would be looking at it all the time

I have a photo of her, a book she has loaned me, some of her handwriting. I need these for attachment so that I can remember her as I forget easily.

If i had her FB page - i would be using that to. I have googled her and other significant ppl - i just need it to feel connected and if I find some information - I feel calmer.

My T doesn't have a FB page or even a picture of herself anywhere on the Internet. I've looked several times to try and find something! I just want to know something about her. She doesn't talk about herself at all. I have no idea if she's married, has kids, even what age group she's in because kind of one of this who looks between 40-60!

I am so glad my T does not have a FAcebook page and Room 2Grow is right, clients looking them up on the internet comes with the territory. they should know that.

I google my T periodically. I cannot find ANYthing about him except that he teaches at a university and is a clinical psychology senior tutor for placements in this county.

I have a photo of him as I took my camera in one day and asked if I could take a picture (what brazen cheek!) and he said yes. So i have a lovely picture of him in the pose he is always in, sitting in on his low chair facing me with the window behind him. I LOVE that picture, it was on my screen saver until my best friend died this month and now hers is on it instead.

I don't think it is stalking, I think it is true small child attachment stuff. And my husband says sometimes it is 'due diligence' as we need to know if our T's are okay -

I want to know my T's birthday. I could pay money on the net and get that information but I just cannot do that. I am going to ask him. I think he will tell me. Then I will give him a present and a card then too.

He might say no.

I would tell your T that you can read her Facebook page and is she aware of that. That would be the adult response.

Of course she might then change her settings so it is a risk from your point of view.

"Face stalkers"- yea, that's what we are. Me too. someone set up a fb pg for my T, but he has never seen it. He did not even know that he has a pg. There is a picture of him, but he's never posted. And I do look at it from time to time. Yup! I'm a facestalker.

Well everyone, I would say it's perfectly normal to google our Ts, mostly because I do it She's referenced 000's of times on the internet with all her writings and papers etc but her fp page is tighter than a fish's a*#e!!! I'm very lucky as I do have a very lovely photo that I downloaded before the fb page went into lockdown and it helps me enormously when needed and I turn it over at other times !!

Seriously it is SO understandable that when we need then but can't reach out - in my instance there is no outside of session phone or email contact - to google just the name helps a little !!!

So everyone for the new year 2012, let's not feel like stalkers for googling our Ts - let's just do what we need to do to feel connected!
s, Morgs