Hi strummergirl,
Still off topic- by Avatar- do you mean the picture to go with your name? How do I do that?
I will look around. thanks.
I have read "A general Theory of Love", but not In Session" Amazon looks like the place to look.
thanks all!
Hi Helle, (still off-topic about avatars)
Yes, the avatar is the picture by your name. You can use the ones stored on this site or use your own picture.
To use your own picture, you will need to save the picture somewhere on your computer first and then edit it to 48 x 48 pixels.
To add an avatar, click Go, Personal Zone, Profile, then click View/Edit Complete Profile. Under Avatar/Picture URL, click Edit (or whatever yours says - mine says Edit because I have a picture there right now - yours might say Add because you don't have one yet).
At the top of the next window, Avatar Set will probably be selected already. To add one of the pictures from this site, click on the one you want and then click Select This One (there are three pages of them...click Next or Previous to see them all).
To add your own picture, click Custom Avatar at the top of the Avatar selection window. Then click Browse and navigate to where you have the picture, click it, and then click Update Avatar.
Finally, back at the View/Edit Complete Profile window, click Submit.
Good luck, helle! Looking forward to "seeing" the "new you"!
SG
Yes, the avatar is the picture by your name. You can use the ones stored on this site or use your own picture.
To use your own picture, you will need to save the picture somewhere on your computer first and then edit it to 48 x 48 pixels.
To add an avatar, click Go, Personal Zone, Profile, then click View/Edit Complete Profile. Under Avatar/Picture URL, click Edit (or whatever yours says - mine says Edit because I have a picture there right now - yours might say Add because you don't have one yet).
At the top of the next window, Avatar Set will probably be selected already. To add one of the pictures from this site, click on the one you want and then click Select This One (there are three pages of them...click Next or Previous to see them all).
To add your own picture, click Custom Avatar at the top of the Avatar selection window. Then click Browse and navigate to where you have the picture, click it, and then click Update Avatar.
Finally, back at the View/Edit Complete Profile window, click Submit.
Good luck, helle! Looking forward to "seeing" the "new you"!
SG
I did it??? I think, yet I don't see the picture yet.- maybe when i post?
THANK YOU STRUMMER GIRL!!!
I will write more tomorrow.
I will write more tomorrow.
I know this is an older thread and so many people have already left wonderful comments on this book, but I just finished it yesterday and have to say that I am SO GLAD I spent the $40 bucks it cost me to get it!
I have been struggling for years trying to understand transference feelings I have had in past relationships with teachers and other "authority figures" in my life, and am now experiencing it in my relationship with my female therapist. The intense feelings and emotions, obsessive thoughts, and the feeling of being a "freak" (at least I am speaking for myself here) have been more than overwhelming at times and I have spent countless hours on the internet trying to understand where all of this comes from and trying to somehow explain it away and normalize it, all to basically no avail. Well, between this forum, Dr. LaCombe's terrific website AND THIS BOOK, I have finally come to feel like I am at least somewhat okay and maybe even partly "normal" for having these feelings.
A lot of the anxiety I have been feeling for the past 3 months has been greatly relieved by just having my fears allayed through others' stories and accounts and the author's attempts at helping women understand where these powerful feelings come from. Her explanations of the "approximate relationship", and the reality of what it is vs. what it is not, although hard to face (even though in my rational mind I "knew" all of it already), were solidified more concretely in my mind in a way that I could grasp on a deeper, more emotionally acceptable level so that I really "get it" now, even though it is still painful. I am now seeing my "relationship" with my therapist from a different perspective and it has helped me tremendously.
In retrospect, a few months ago I cringed at the price tag on this book that originally sold for $16 U.S. and is now out of print and sells for a minimum of around $40. I figured I understood transference well enough from all of my reading on the internet. HA! I'm really not sorry I got this book, as it has been priceless in helping me understand quite a few things from the client/patient perspective that you just can't get from any other book. I only wish I hadn't made the mistake of waiting so long. I could have saved myself several months' worth of worry and anxiety.
I have been struggling for years trying to understand transference feelings I have had in past relationships with teachers and other "authority figures" in my life, and am now experiencing it in my relationship with my female therapist. The intense feelings and emotions, obsessive thoughts, and the feeling of being a "freak" (at least I am speaking for myself here) have been more than overwhelming at times and I have spent countless hours on the internet trying to understand where all of this comes from and trying to somehow explain it away and normalize it, all to basically no avail. Well, between this forum, Dr. LaCombe's terrific website AND THIS BOOK, I have finally come to feel like I am at least somewhat okay and maybe even partly "normal" for having these feelings.
A lot of the anxiety I have been feeling for the past 3 months has been greatly relieved by just having my fears allayed through others' stories and accounts and the author's attempts at helping women understand where these powerful feelings come from. Her explanations of the "approximate relationship", and the reality of what it is vs. what it is not, although hard to face (even though in my rational mind I "knew" all of it already), were solidified more concretely in my mind in a way that I could grasp on a deeper, more emotionally acceptable level so that I really "get it" now, even though it is still painful. I am now seeing my "relationship" with my therapist from a different perspective and it has helped me tremendously. In retrospect, a few months ago I cringed at the price tag on this book that originally sold for $16 U.S. and is now out of print and sells for a minimum of around $40. I figured I understood transference well enough from all of my reading on the internet. HA! I'm really not sorry I got this book, as it has been priceless in helping me understand quite a few things from the client/patient perspective that you just can't get from any other book. I only wish I hadn't made the mistake of waiting so long. I could have saved myself several months' worth of worry and anxiety.
MTF,
Forgive me if I've told you about this before, I lose track sometimes, but since In Session was so helpful, can I recommend two other books that you might find helpful, they both address attachment and I have found both books to be very helpful in my healing. The first was a book that my T recommended when I asked about attachment theory and reading it actually gave me hope I could heal. I found the second one and recommended it to my T, who read it and has thanked me a number of times as he has found it really helpful
Parenting from the Inside Out
General Theory of Love
The authors of General Theory of Love should really start paying me a commission! But I really love this book because it's the book that helped me finally understand my need to be dependent on my T for awhile so I could stop fighting it so hard. For some reason i found it scary to be dependent on him. 
AG
Forgive me if I've told you about this before, I lose track sometimes, but since In Session was so helpful, can I recommend two other books that you might find helpful, they both address attachment and I have found both books to be very helpful in my healing. The first was a book that my T recommended when I asked about attachment theory and reading it actually gave me hope I could heal. I found the second one and recommended it to my T, who read it and has thanked me a number of times as he has found it really helpful
Parenting from the Inside Out
General Theory of Love
The authors of General Theory of Love should really start paying me a commission!
But I really love this book because it's the book that helped me finally understand my need to be dependent on my T for awhile so I could stop fighting it so hard. For some reason i found it scary to be dependent on him. AG
Hi again, AG!
I actually bought A General Theory of Love at the same time I got In Session because I read on here somewhere (probably one of your posts) that you highly recommended it. So I'll be jumping into that one next. I also bought one called Attachment in Psychotherapy, but that one looks definitely like it's more for the therapist than the patient. Anyway, I'm sure it will be helpful. I will look into Parenting From the Inside Out next, because I can use all the help I can get in understanding this whole attachment thing and your T knows what he's doing so I know I won't go wrong with that book! This attachment thing is painful, and the sooner I can fully understand myself (well, at least better understand myself) the better! I guess I'll find out too how much my T can help me understand it this next week when I confront her about all of this stuff. Not looking forward to it, but in a strange way I sort of am! Thanks for the recommendations! You're such a great help!!! 
MTF
I actually bought A General Theory of Love at the same time I got In Session because I read on here somewhere (probably one of your posts) that you highly recommended it. So I'll be jumping into that one next. I also bought one called Attachment in Psychotherapy, but that one looks definitely like it's more for the therapist than the patient. Anyway, I'm sure it will be helpful. I will look into Parenting From the Inside Out next, because I can use all the help I can get in understanding this whole attachment thing and your T knows what he's doing so I know I won't go wrong with that book!
This attachment thing is painful, and the sooner I can fully understand myself (well, at least better understand myself) the better! I guess I'll find out too how much my T can help me understand it this next week when I confront her about all of this stuff. Not looking forward to it, but in a strange way I sort of am! Thanks for the recommendations! You're such a great help!!! MTF