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I've been having some issues with stress over the holidays, with certain things triggering memories of my ex-P.
I feel like I've peeled off a layer of stress by spending the afternoon playing Nintendo Wii - mainly the Wii fit games, and I'm not a big gamer at all! Just thought I'd share this and I did a little online research and it is proven to relieve stress! I think because it's sociable, easy, but requires focus which helps me keep my mind off less productive things!  I also decided for the new year to change my name and avatar - my old login name was chosen because it reminded me of my ex-P - a little hint - it was a season! Free-on-thursdays! |
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Hi S.... it makes sense because now you are free on Thursday's.
We have Wii but not Wii fit. I like bowling. I only wish it could keep me from obsessing about my T being away. I need a life. TN "You gain strength, courage and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face." Eleanor Roosevelt |
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"Welcome", Free-on-Thursdays! Love the new name and avatar
   "Santa" (my MIL) gave us a Wii for Christmas so I will try your suggestion. We found out last night that we're much better at "virtual" bowling than the real thing! My husband has a wild throw, though. I can see why those wrist straps are so important. Thank you for always being such an inspiration. You've been through something really tough and you're doing everything right. Do they make Wii Kickboxing? Could be fun! SG |
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Hi TN and SG,
The Wii is helping but it takes a lot to get through the holidays without Ts/Ps around. I've been having a hard week fighting off the memories of my ex-P, while knowing my T is away until sometime in January. So in the meantime, I'm doing everything I can to deal with stress on my own. Some days are great - like yesterday - and other days, I feel like it just takes soooo much mental and emotional energy to stay focused/centered. The Wii fit has boxing and probably has kick-boxing - haven't tried all of the games yet. I still feel like Summer but I've got to leave that all behind. |
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Hi, Luna here. I can relate to being without your T. As with you, I am still attached to my old T(saw her from 1999-August 2008)and now am missing my recently retired T, who I only saw from Oct.2008 until now. I am set adrift and looking for someone I might not become attached to so much...so painful. Positive things are, I am doing considerable research on a couple T's, and I have hired an organizer with the money I am not spending on my T. right now. I have had to admit that I am a hoarder, not just someone who "saves things." I have great hope she will give me the push I need to continue cleaning out after I can no longer afford her. With the Christmas mess to clean up, It seems I never get ahead! Hoarder is such an awful word!
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Hi Luna,
It must be hard for you missing 2 Ts and I can understand your reluctance to become close to a new one. I see a T who must be CBT and she's never had a patient fall in love with her - I found that out by asking how she deals with that sort of thing, as compared to how my ex-P dealt with it. She said it's never happened - she thought it was because she keeps strict boundaries. She's a warm, caring person that has self-disclosed a little but I don't feel anything slightly resembling what I felt towards my ex-P. It's good to see a T to talk about problems and not have to deal with the overwhelming emotions that occur with attachment... I'd LOVE to hire someone to help me clean up my house. I'm not really a hoarder but I have way too much stuff...just get overwhelmed and can't decide what to do next. I think I have ADD when it comes to housework! |
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But how can she really KNOW that? Maybe it happens and her patients just never told her. Not trying to make you doubt your new T or anything! (She sounds awesome, btw.) I just think this happens A LOT more than they realize. My P seemed really shocked when I told him, and I thought it seemed pretty obvious... |
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Dear Echo and Free on T, Yes, it would be good to have someone to talk to that you did not have feelings for. I think you are right that some Ts probably do not know when someone is hiding feelings for them....or they do not want to admit it. I wonder if it is a trip for them to have people idealize them. I do have a P that i see every 4 mo for meds management. He is one great guy, but insurance does not pay for therapy from Ps. He does see me for an hour, though and has been wonderfully helpful along the way. He has attempted to give me help with the hoarding stuff, but I am a tough nut to crack. He discloses a great deal. We talk about his trips and his daughter and his life in Rumania. I am fortunate to be seeing him, as he only sees a few clients outside his regular position in the hospital. I got to know him, as I was in his research study. My recent T disclosed a lot..I did feel she was more like a real person...trouble is she is so friendly, I began to slip into more of a peer relationship.She did say I could send short emails and she would answer with a short reply. She always acted like she had more problems than I have! the mother in me wanted to nurture her!
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It is something that I havent tried but it is good to talk with a person about whom you dont have any feelings and yes, there are many people who dont want to admit that the person who is talking with you hiding something from you. I believe in one thing that if you want to get over stress you need to be very strong and also, dont ever let situation rule you. Thanks www.dayspringcenter.com |
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