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Originally posted by seablue:
DGUOM,
Your pic breaks my heart - I just want to hold her!!

I hope it isnt too upsetting!. I guess the pic represents what I feel most of the time, so I use it.

DGUOM,
Your picture breaks my heart.
Me too I want to hold her- because that was me.

WOW. The thing about sliding all the way down in your chair...
I did this at my last session, and after the session was over, when I was thinking back over everything, I felt SO EMBARRASSED that I had acted this way. I felt like a little pouty kid. The things I was talking about were EXHAUSTING and FRUSTRATING, and I did not even really realize I did it until after. My T just looked at me and let me keep talking/pouting.

I don't know why your T would do this though unless maybe he was getting some of these feelings from the things you were talking about? I don't know.

Just thought it was interesting to see that someone had brought up the subject since it has been on my mind. I always worry about everything after the sessions and think 'why did I do/say that?' oh well....

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I hope it isnt too upsetting!. I guess the pic represents what I feel most of the time, so I use it.

It is not too much for me. I think it's a perfect representation of how I am guessing many of us felt at that age and still feel much of the time. Maybe looking at her will help us be gentler to the little people parts of ourselves.

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Maybe looking at her will help us be gentler to the little people parts of ourselves.

Yes- I like that Seablue!

Just to follow up---T is still sliding down the chair, but now when he comes back up, he puts his head down and twiddles this thumbs. Yes, twiddles his thumbs! Why doesn't he just hold up a sign saying "you are boring the sh*t out of me!" lol. I guess I'm boring. Either that or he's trying to detach from me due to a recent diagnosis. *sigh*

BTW @ Jane--I think it's totally ok for us as patients to do things like sliding down in the chair, I wouldn't be embarrassed about it.

I noticed my P beginning first session and I didn't have a clue what he was like did this.
A topic came up he was trying to respond to.
He took a deep breath and held it while his eyes were closed, then exhaled loudly. I thought maybe he was trying to get me to relax by doing this. Think it's just his way of processing his thoughts before he responds.

I agree with Free-on-Thursdays, perhaps all of the sliding around isn't related to you at all.

I have been thinking about what body language my T uses. Most of the time, when/if I pay attention I notice that she is almost always mirroring what I do. I always take my shoes off and curl up on the couch. The other day, I caught notice of the fact that she had her feet tucked under the same way that I did and was resting her chin on the same arm that I was. We looked the same. I think she often does this to "feel" what I'm feeling.

One day she seemed really tired and like she could take a nap if given the chance. I said something to her about it and she agreed that she was super tired and she could take a nap, but I didn't feel like she wasn't tracking with me. She was very attuned, just tired.

My t usually watches me when we talk- a bit to heavy on the eye contact sometimes. It can be unnerving. His body is upright and slightly leaning toward me. If I ask him a question, he looks straight ahead or slightly to the right and says something like-" I am scanning my body to see if this fits" or sonething like that.

^^ scanning his body? What do you think that means? That's interesting.

The more I think about my T sliding down in the chair, you all are probably right, he is just tired. I'm always his first patient of the day and he's sipping coffee the entire time, so i guess he's waking up. I tend to assume everyone's up at 4am like me.

Scanning his body-
When he does this- it is usually to a question that he has to think deeply before he responds.
He holds his memories and information in his body, and he is thinking or connecting to how he feels about what I have asked before he responds.
Something like that.
I will see him tomorrow- yea! so I will ask him if that is accurate. It has to do with how he processes information.

This one is funny to watch. My T is short. He sometimes picks up his feet and taps them together off the floor and looks at them. He looks like this little boy sitting in a chair thats too big for him. It really cracks me up.

Lately he has been sitting on his very uncomfortable couch across from me with me sitting higher than him in a chair about 4 feet away. I have told him umpteen times he needs a new couch. It hurts my back! Plus, who knows how clean it is...yuck. He used to sit in a chair across from me. I wonder why he has changed his seating arrangement? Is it to make me feel more confident sitting in a more commanding position. Is it to make me feel more relaxed?

lizzygirl
I think the change of position or seating can really throw you. Sometimes my T sits in a different chair and I want to tell her that it feels all wrong but rarely do. Usually after a while I get used to it and don't notice again - until she moves again of course!

starfish

Hi Lizzygirl - do you think your T changed the seating because he knew you were uncomfortable on the couch? I wonder if it's a case of him hearing something that you need or want, and giving it to you. What do you think?

J

Well no on him relinguishing the chair to me because he has another chair opposite the other one. We used to sit facing each other.
Now he kind of half lays on the couch because its so soft its hard to sit upright. This is probably too silly to even make an issue of.
All I know is he needs a new couch...I suggested leather.