(((((DF))))) I think it totally warrants a call to your T, these are big decisions!! I want to just comment though that I don't think T should be telling you not to go back to school. She should be encouraging you to pursue things that will make you happy, and if that is school...then go for it.Read More...

I wonder why people find fault in others so easily than findin something good? I'm irritated with my sis in law who keep teaching me traditional things. Its not wrong but its th timing. Just thought of sharing here. As i don want to tell anyone.Read More...

Thank you so much for your kind reply. This was very moving for me to read - and very helpful. Especially what you said about giving the world what she wanted to. That is very powerful and really opened my eyes. I appreciate your reply and I am so, so sorry for your loss. My parents are changed people from losing their daughter. I can't even imagine what you're going through. Stay strong and thanks again for the kind words!Read More...

Hi SD, This is actually a complicated question and the answer somewhat depends on what the asker really wants to know. No one is the exact same person in all circumstances with all people, it actually wouldn't be appropriate. Of course, we're going to be behave differently at our job than we would at a family party, or behave differently with our kids than we would with our friends. In our relationship with our kids, we need to keep it about their needs and not place the burden of our needs...Read More...

I understand better now frosty. That makes sense about why your P suggested suing them, although that would be awful... Do your parents know that if they kicked you out, they would need to give that money to you? Or are they saying they would keep it? (Maybe it hasn't come up?) Makes sense too about going inpatient. Grr. This is just crummy. I wish your parents would get help for themselves. My mom asked me once how she could help me with my illness, and she even met with my T and I to talk...Read More...

How did it go, DF? Hope you were able to make yourself go, but understand if you weren't. Taking those huge steps can be terrifying, but so healing if/when we force ourselves to feel the fear and do it anyway. MTFRead More...

Wishing you all the best with your session today ((((((( AG ))))))) LLRead More...

Fantastic, Yaku. It takes a lot of stamina and patience to work out insurance problems like this - applause for you! I hope this helps to ease things with your mortgage situation.Read More...

Oh heck yeah it impacts my looks. I gained 30 pounds in a few months last year, granted I was a bit underweight to begin with but yeah, it totally changed the way I looked. I even stopped showering every day at one point and just wore whatever was hanging on the end of the laundry basket from the day before. i've noticed that when I started interviewing for the job I got, I felt soooo much better about myself when I got dressed all cute like I used to. Now I make more of an effort to get...Read More...

My T gives me his notes almost every week. I find them very honest, right on, and quite interesting to read. I can only think of once or twice that something upset me and I questioned him on it. He then got upset that I was questioning essentially his personal take on things. I actually apologized that I was out of bounds. So, he says I'm the only patient that has asked to see their notes??? Cant believe that. Anyway, I appreciate him sharing them with me. I need to know where he thinks I...Read More...

((((((BB))))) thanks for your support. I know you are going through a lot right now. It's different for me not to feel immense fear for the first time in my life. I hope you can find it also with cowboy t. It might take time. But hopefully you will get there. Xoxoxo lieseRead More...

you have such a great sense of humor. You crack me up, Draggers! I want you stuck to my windsheild. Just for a fly-by- a dragonfly visit. Sometimes- even from the beginning, T does things or says things, that make me freak out a bit- and I can't identify the source of the freak out. It is not his words at all, (intellectually- I get it) but rather it's my feelings and internal reaction to his words or his actions. I wish I could figure it out. It is like he is representing someone else in my...Read More...

Thanks Morgs and TN- I wish I could offer more right now on here. I just have nothing of value to say about therapy, and I can't really take in the kind words of encouragement about Cowboy appropriately. so I guess that is the real reason I am not around very much. I don't know what I think about it all, or what I feel. There is a big part of me that is very cynical about therapy, and thinks it is a big waste of time and money- but doesn't know what else to do. because of being told...Read More...

((GG)) - I think if you feel like you have to whine and whinge - then you go for it. If it is what you need to function let it out. I tend to find that when things are going so negatively for me - then i get a ton of physical complaints also. Thanks Universe.Read More...

***Possibly triggering*** Kind of related, kind of unrelated...but I was talking to my H about some parts stuff that is coming up on our drive down to see my dad, because I'm getting a lot of feedback of being scared to go see him and trying to work through what that's about and was saying how he couldn't have done anything bad, because of a memory I had of him getting very angry about me trying to kiss him on the lips at my grandmother's house when I was little, and the fact that affection...Read More...

MTF, Wow, you are so brave to have asked your T for her boundaries and what she is to you. the thought of me asking my T that terrifies me, but it sounds like it has helped you tremendously. What i get from reading your post is that even though you are sad that you aren't as connected to her now that you are doing schema work, perhaps this is better for you because you feeling less preoccupied with the relationship itself. I hope that you are able to find a way to feel connected without it...Read More...

Hi Mel1 (nice to meet you) Red flags are waving for me to even having read your clear post. Thinking about my burgeoning relationship with my T (I am 5 months into therapy) and comparing her with your T sends warning bells. T told me specifically when we first met that she was not there to tell me what to do, but rather that therapy should be a partnership and we would learn together. She does go into fixing mode but only when needed, like getting me a tissue or a glass of water last week...Read More...

Hi RAD I'm glad you decided to post here and I think Smiley and the others have given you some very good suggestions. I would also endorse looking into seeing a counselor at school. I think you need someone to talk to aside from your best friend (which is also good to do). The reason is that this counselor will make this all about you and will be totally open to hearing you and helping you. Crisis lines are another good option to get you through those dark times when you feel alone. And...Read More...

Thanks Frosty... ((((Frosty)))) I have so little time to sort through things cause I go back to work full time the last week of August and I lose the flexibility that I have in the summer. I'm very excited to get back to the routine of teaching, but afraid I won't be able to make it through a full work day at my current energy level I am determined, though, and I know everything will end up working out in the end. As AG's quote says: "Everything will be ok in the end. If it's not ok, it's...Read More...

(((Incognito))) I am SO happy that your phone session went well. I am sure that was a HUGE relief; especially after the dreams you were having beforehand--you can definitely tell that there was a lot of anxiety there. Your T sounds like he does care for you in a good way. I like hearing about everyone's resolutions, and it does help. Sometimes when I feel so disconnected with T, I read everyone Else's posts and start to feel a little better. I like that you wrote out your feelings about the...Read More...

Wow, after reading your post MTF, I am motivated to read up on this - I hadn't heard it before. My T - sounds very much like yours. She always brings it back to how my feelings / attachments / thoughts / actions affect current relationships. She uses her and my relationship and a colleague of ours - as a "practice net" and she is always trying to bring my issues back to that relationship - instead of talking about my marriage or specifically to do the blame thing with my childhood family.Read More...

(((Jane))) I'm sorry things are so hard and totally respect you not being able to or wanting to post about it here. I am glad your T and SD have been so present for you, supporting you through such a rough time. You are saying it is worse than how things have been so far, so I too am amazed at how you are moving through all this stress while dealing with your move. It sounds like you are in a safe place with these roommates, so I hope you are able to settle into that safety and really take...Read More...

((yaku)) thank you for your message and sorry i get back to it so late. i have thrown myself into my work... sucks... its been crazy busy at work and i guess it is something to do, keep busy. but cant say i've been enjoying it. hopefully catch up on the forum in the weekend. hope you're doing ok too! puppetRead More...

Hemlock, I'm sorry that you don't have that intimacy with your H but I can totally understand. Sometimes I think that if my H and I don't make it, that I'll find someone new but not sure I would sure my story either. Just want to start fresh with a nice clean slate. I also get making yourself and your authenticy the first priority. I feel the same way. If my H made me choose right now, I'd have to say, sorry you have to hit the highway. I'm so tired of twisting myself inside out for people...Read More...

(((TN))) I'm so glad that your T called back. I'm sorry that he is still trying to set up the meeting with your old T for next Monday. I hope he gets back to you soon with a workable schedule. I'm thinking of you, DiRead More...