Welcome to the forums, Blanket Girl! I enjoyed the explanation of your name. It's great to have you here! Peace, SGRead More...

Thank you...got in now! starfishRead More...

That’s true about the quiz, LL. Whether the quiz is accurate or not depends on what type of therapy you’re in. The question that made the whole quiz not legit for me was this one- “Instead of planning a therapy session, does your therapist merely react to whatever direction a session spontaneously takes?” UHHHH, DUH. That’s the point dude.Read More...

Hi UV, I experienced this fairly pronounced one time in session. I have no idea what triggered it, as it seemed to come out of the blue in session (I'm sure it didn't, but it seemed like it), but it left me all out of sorts for several hours. This was only in my 4th or 5th session with my T, so that also added to the peculiarity of it. Anyway, I felt like an observer in my own body, kind of like I was the outline of my figure sitting in the couch, but still able to see things through my own...Read More...

MTF it was a pleasure to read your post - after all the pain and confusion you’ve been going through, and sticking with it no matter what - your struggles have paid off. And now you’re both ready to go into the ‘sticky places’ as Monte says. Good one MTF, big smiles for you. LLRead More...

Hi Amazon, I just saw this. It is wonderful to hear that you are doing so well and making so much progress. Thank you for letting us know that you are going so that we don't worry, and like the others, I would urge you to occasionally drop a line, we'd love to hear how you're doing. AGRead More...

mac- thanks for that. i appreciate it. its helpful. have a good day.Read More...

Thank you again for the kind words. I must forewarn you, I am in a l o w mood today, and have been since last night. I am having a "I am so tired of living" kind of day. Don't worry, I am not suicidal, just...tired. Tired of money-or lack there of, tired of feeling like I am on a time frame no matter what I do, while "j" can go and come when ever he pleases- is gone for hours and i have no idea of where he is. Tired of never having gas in the car because he and his 'friends' run it out.Read More...

((((((((((janedoe)))))))))) How are you doing since you posted this? I was so glad to hear that you connected so unexpectedly well with your family...I wonder if it felt really disorienting in a way? I hope you can bounce back...have you talked again with your T? Please let us know how you are. Hugs, SGRead More...

Hi Frog, thanks for answering! I'm really sorry ablout your accident, are you ok mow??? Missing that last app must have been gutting! And you're absolutely right, I will of course talk to him about it. For me that's the main point. Sorry if that wasn't clear. But I'm still thinking leaving people on their own for 6 weeks is a bit much without getting the context. I mean, would you do that to a dog??? Great you have your t back now! sbRead More...

ME TOO!!! (((UV)))Read More...

ditto! glad to 'see' you on the board MonteRead More...

Pouring down here....now where are my wellies? Frog, you'll be in your element starfishRead More...

smiley Glar that your T called and that she felt she had an explanation, even though it sounds like you are still a bit unsure. I think I sort of get where she is coming from...when I have flashbacks they might take several mins for the truly vivid intensity to wear off, but the feelings from the flashback hang around for ages - hours or days sometimes. So although I'm not still experiencing it as a 'right there' happening, my mind and my body sometimes are caught in limbo land, trying to...Read More...

I would just ask her straight out. I am diagnosed Borderline Personality and we talk about it openly in session. I have had that diagnosis for 10 years from my original therapist and psychiatrist but when I started with a new therapist I just asked her what she thinks my diagnosis is and we discussed. It made me feel better to get it out in the open and talk about it instead of just wonderingRead More...

Lamplighter..again How come you be so sweet? Thanks for being so warm and generous with me... maybe you should become a T yourself? Guess you would find youself trapped in intense love-transference projections from your patients.. hehe . Well, OK- your questions: (thanks for asking btw) - Yep. My T is a psychoanalyst. But he likes to think of him self as an "mix"- whom also uses a psychodynamic approach. - when it comes to "getting lost in real life" its rather for me like i "got lost in...Read More...

I'm sorry you are having such a hard time. I agree with dragonfly, you might be surprised if you did ask him. I understand that is such a vulnerable place to be in, but you never know what he might say. ((((lizzygirl))))Read More...

I was wondering how this was going to all play out....I had read all of the posts in this thread last evening and was lost for words.....so glad that you have intervened Shrinklady! I am still processing/reflecting on all of those posts! SRead More...

It's a sound, like a deep breath out. Sort of like hmmm but with no vocal sounds only the breath. I take it to mean she's upset cause when I usually sigh, it is because I'm feeling sad or sorrow. But I did talk to her about the sighing and she said it is because she thought something I said was very insightful. I'm glad the last session was much better for you though!Read More...

Aw thanks Draggers! Your support is amazing. Ha ha everyone can blame you for encouraging me, now that I seem to be back and posting again. Yeah psychodynamic therapy seems to be the way to go - i'd never really heard of it let alone considered it before joining this forum - I am so glad you guys are here. LLRead More...

Hello UV - seems you’re going through a period of assessing how your therapy is going and coming up with some serious issues? I hope you are able to talk to him about all this and get some assurances from him about what his intentions in regard to your therapy are. Couldn’t help but fix on the same quote Maclove quoted This jumped out at me because that’s exactly how I’ve experienced nearly every therapy relationship I’ve been in - where I’m the one doing the job of the therapist - trying to...Read More...

Hello Jackson and welcome to the forum! I’m glad you brought this thread up as the whole issue of male v female Ts has been dogging me again. Thank you for sharing your story - I’m sorry you have suffered abuse in the past and I’m glad you’ve had relationships with Ts that have been supportive and caring - facets of therapy that seem to be in short supply right now! (I’m referring to the many sad stories of rupture and termination that have been unfolding this month.) Your progress reminds...Read More...

I was worried about this too, since it took me about 7 months to connect. But I have to say that I don’t feel this way at all now. I know that my T understands the process of building a relationship, and he didn’t expect me to be connected to him until I was ready. Personally I don’t think you have to come right out and tell her, unless you really want to of course! There are ways you can show her that you trust her and feel connected to her without actually telling her- for example being...Read More...

I believe Russ is in the middle of a T vacation or perhaps just finished one. I know that was causing some issues. Russ, you around? Hope you are doing ok! ETA: Never mind, I see you Russ. I noticed your comment in TN's thread that I have to get caught up on again.Read More...

I just want to add here that I have forgiven my T numerous other times where he hurt or disappointed me. He HATED disappointing me and I would say that he is just human like the rest of us and I don't expect perfection. I was very forgiving of him on many levels. Once he told me that he didn't deserve to work with someone like me and that it was a privilege for him that I chose to work with him. And that I am so forgiving of his errors. I felt that each time we had a disruption when we...Read More...