Hi RT. IFS is internal family systems, which is a relatively new-ish kind of therapy. It's been around for about 30 years. I like it in theory, but it's really shame inducing (for me). So whenever she goes down that road, I don't really like it because all the shame gets stirred up and then I leave feeling ashamed. It's basically based on the theory of the multiplicity of the mind...we all have various parts in us. When there's a trauma in our childhoods, some of our parts get stuck and...Read More...

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CD Thank you for the link. I have read it but am rereading it as well I have been doing a lot of rereading of different articles lately - sometimes just to remind myself that things do get better. Thank you and I hope you are doing well.Read More...

i dont think i ever i will ever see another t again, from my previous experience overcoming what happened with him has honestly been the hardest thing i have ever been thru, iv had so many flashbacks and nightmares, i had developed two lifelong health conditions which i believe has been down to the stress of the experience, i think the only way for me to go now is the road that does not involve help off another T, Afterall im sure he wont have given me a second thought, he is just a person,...Read More...

Thanks so much for your thoughts ladies, this helps a lot! No updates of any sort today... I'm waiting on hearing back from a new T re: my insurance and a session this week but.... have not heard back so I'm already scared away. Sigh. *update they just called back!* ((GE)) I have major control issues, it's made therapy... fun. T1 will suggest, probe, put in to context, sometimes she is wrong, right or painfully right (depends on the day). T2 on the other hand will do the literal just...Read More...

My T and I have probably crossed alot of lines. I believe the lines are a bit bendable in some cases.Read More...

Sheesh about your counselor, Scars! Unfortunately it sounds like contacting him would hit a wall again. You could try it, but how would you feel if he reacted the same way he did to your text?? Personally I would feel rejected. But that doesn't mean I could stop myself from contacting him.Read More...

I love that little penguin (well all penguins really) but I never knew they could laugh or whatever that sound is!Read More...

Re: Please don't get drawn into another war of words.Read More...

so sorry for your loss ((TN)) and i hope your T will be a good help to you through this. puppetRead More...

Sorry I didn't respond to anyone sooner, I got this crazy one-hit-wonder of a flu and slept forever. My P suggested some med changes I could do (I just got my generic switched back to the original manufacturer (which they changed again on me unexpectedly) so, I'm sure that will fix it. I don't know how I feel yet on account of being so sick but I hope maybe the past week I've just had some weird flu and am now better... I ended up in the most severe abdominal pain I've ever been in on Friday...Read More...

It's not a very comfortable path is it? And it wasn't a path chosen by me either. But, there you go, such is therapy, and life!Read More...

I don't really know anymore. My T has said that she would rather I call her than hurt myself in any way (ED, self-harm, suicidal action all included here). If it's during a time she's not available (vacations and weekends she is 100% NOT available) then I do whatever else I need to (and have my P and adjunct T as backup). I'd probably be dead for 2 solid minutes before I'd ever call 911 for a medical emergency. There are times I've called my P or Drs on their regular line and been told to...Read More...

This is water: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IzX9IFS732gRead More...

I honestly don't understand how anything on this forum could lead to threatening someone's life. That's pretty scary stuff.Read More...

unless you very strongly suspect that this person you're considering sharing information with could figure out who you are, i wouldn't worry about it. it's a pretty damn big world. OTOH, if you know the approximate locale of said person and know that you're locale was approximate to said-person's locale, that may be a different story. as an example, from a previous post you started, i know you are from the midwest. i am from the midwest. you happen to remind me of somebody. it is highly...Read More...

scars, I think psychoanalysts are safest as they are trained specifically for attachment issues, especially transference. bpd is primarily from attachment failure, imo. i have those issues too. I only feel safe with analysts and not other Ts because they are required to do depth therapy for years and be fit to be therapists. I don't know other types of therapists who get that litmus test. although some other types of Ts have done/do that type of work. just fyi DBT might be better for some...Read More...

((Jill)) Yea... it's just so hard to start things and risk and what if it doesn't work and etc etc. This is #1 why I stay in bad relationships too long and #2 why I am still single (and will probably be to the grave) right now!! Argh! ((HIC)) My T makes fun of me too... so I know what you mean by feeling the affection there. We didn't exactly start out very well Thanks for reminding me that... truly I sorta have to be myself in order to find a T I resonate with. Can't really put on a front...Read More...

Nuggets of joy indeed. I love their feet.Read More...

What Cat said ^ Yay!Read More...

Hi, incognito. I woke up thinking of what you said at the end of your most recent blog entry: "If there is progress it is that I can want to cancel and not act on it the way I used to." That really is progress! And I think that is how progress in therapy shows itself, in those tiny steps that we almost take for granted. It's good to notice those tiny things though, and if you can, mention this success to your T. Allowing yourself to celebrate a little, just by mentioning it, can really...Read More...