i felt like i was along the adventuresome ride right along-side ya. i am in my glory during escapades such as that one. loved it, and thanks for sharing!Read More...

What a lovely thing to say HCRead More...

So he's just sent me a message saying that it would be a good idea for me to bring to our next session the notes I've made in order to review them (he knows I keep notes of all our sessions). That sounds like a review so that we can have an end session to me. What, after all of this he decides to terminate me? I don't think I can stand that and it would be all my own fault.Read More...

((((TAS)))) I'm so sorry that he hurt you so much. It sounds like it might be a good thing for you to acknowledge that he might not be the most sensitive person in the universe. Maybe you have been stuffing his insensitivity much to your own detriment? Do you go to marriage counseling together? Is he willing? Would he go on his own to individual therapy? I have that from my H but let me tell you that that security comes with a very high price tag. IMO, it means that I have to make the same...Read More...

Thank you (((Liese))) AV.Read More...

That's an interesting point, ((RT)) I guess grocery shopping is the one thing we do on a regular basis that lets a whole heap of strangers get a sneaky look into our personal lives (and larder cupboards!!) I've often wondered what other shoppers or checkout staff think when they peek into my basket If I see someone with a load of 'reduced item' stuff I tend to think "cheapskate" and then hide all mine at the bottom of the basket, LOL!Read More...

((AG)) The timing of your T's vacation was really the pits. It's hard to hold onto that postive image when they feel so far away. Your T cares about you greatly, though, and would never want to hurt you. He's on your side. Hang in there.Read More...

Ellipsis. Not ellipticals. :PRead More...

FAV!!!Read More...

Art in most forms does, doesn't it Blu? Can you see the PASSION in their very being when the artist's perform? They are in a 'zone,' and they take us to where they are in it. Soul communicating to soul?Read More...

Thanks for this thought, cat. I think it helps explain some of what's been going on for me too. T tells me to stop focusing on the process, but I keep saying these feelings are part of the process...aren't they??? Confusing. RabbitEarsRead More...

Yep that is me I can actually feel the pre-vomit anxiety and how hard I usually try to keep it from happening. Fantastic analogy!Read More...

Jill: I admire what you are able to do with boundaries with your dad. I'm very far from my fam. Has your T given you any suggestions? I saw my family last year for hours but want to stay a week. T says I wasn't strong enough last year (so I needed those boundaries), but I may be now. I took that in as.... I'm not good enough? I genuinely want a relationship, but I'm confused about if it is actually safe. I took in her words as it was/is my disfunction that separated us. My fault from birth,...Read More...

Good one RE!Read More...

RT, Saw this over on the "Check In" thread and just wanted to share with you that NEVER in a million years will I hear those words ever pass my Ts lips. I do believe he loves me, we've talked about it but he will not say it to me. So I felt a little envious when I read this. I will never be hugged, so at times it can be hard to read of other people getting that (I don't want them to hesitate to speak of it however!) I will never have a regular standing appointment, he doesn't work that way.Read More...

Welcome RT. Don't want to step back in to being moderator full time for a whole raft of reasons, but am not adverse to the occasional tinkering.Read More...

Hey Tas There is a book by Teyber and McClure that is on the interpersonal process in therapies and they talk a lot about therapists passing and failing tests, transference, countertransference and boundaries. You can see a bit of it in the preview window at google books Hugs xxRead More...

((kashley)) hope the busy season (I know!!) is treating you gently at work... been thinking of you and glad to see you pop back in.Read More...

I was just talking about this with someone the other day.. I've drowned twice in my dreams. Both times I was aware that I was drowning and knew I was going to die.. It was really awful. I've also dreamt I've died in other ways, like I was shot once. One time I was already dead and I was in a coffin and could see my parents around my coffin but they didn't seem to notice or care that I was dead. That being said.. I've always woken up just at the point of dying. I've never gone to heaven in a...Read More...

I'm Only Me When Im With You...a little old school but I liked country Taylor better than new mainstream pop version Taylor. :P just my preference...oh and I like Celine tooRead More...

Hi Scarzee It sounds like you have found somewhere to get your need for good old fashioned human connection met, and it makes you feel good. To be with others who listen, have a laugh with you and like you is something we all need; and yup, your T doubtless provides that too. Perhaps you don't have that same feeling at home with your family? It makes sense to me you'd miss it when your colleagues aren't there. I don't know if it's transference or not; but I do hope you can find the same...Read More...

i wish i was in a house with a working air-conditioner!Read More...

Got that RT. Thank you for posting it.Read More...