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(((IrishX))) Oh, amen to that! If I could do things over again I would ideally have done a year or two of therapy before having kids, but then, their existence has probably brought some of my own attachment issues closer to the surface so maybe it wouldn't have been the same. Who knows? Be that as it may, I started with T when my daughter was seven months old and then my son was born about a year later-- and it's hard to describe in a brief post, but things went so much more smoothly with...Read More...

ever email just to say "hi"?

closeddoors
I just posted a similar topic without realizing you had already posted this. I'm glad you were able to get a smiley out of T. That's at least a good response. BTW-I miss my former T and am thinking about calling her or FB messaging her to give her an update. I don't know if I have the courage to do that though. I don't want to either hear nothing from her or something that tells me to not do that. I don't think she would say that, but I don't know if I want to event try. I miss her sooooo...Read More...

how does your internest/general doctor act when you go to them?

thanks everyone for the input. Cat I like your hot dog story- it makes sense. I mean if my internest was fed up with me she would have showed it or terminated me. I am currently in therapy getting help and she knows this. b2w and scars I guess you guys are right. Internist's have a lack of understanding probly because that's not what they're trained in. I guess I'll stick with my internest for right now.Read More...

Just a bit of background really

avoidant
((((CD)))) It's really sad to hear that you and so many others here can relate to this thread. My sister suffered the ignomy of being told by our mum that she wasn't wanted because she was a girl and that my only saving grace was I was a boy. Her dislike of girls carried over to when my sisters children were born, and when her first child was a boy my mum was overjoyed by it. When my sister was carrying her second child she was almost petrified that it would be a girl and that our mum would...Read More...

How far do you travel to see your T?

I think it comes down to what the drive is like. It's mostly motorway so if traffic isn't bad then it could be an easy drive. What I worry about is traffic being unpredictable and then having to leave lots of extra time to make sure I'm not late for a session because with only 50 minutes a week with T I coudn't bear to miss any of that time. There is so much other uncertainty in my life right now that it really isn't the right time to be adding to it by changing T. I talked to a friend about...Read More...

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a very interesting question! i think for me its hidden deep in my chest in layers and layers of protection, so hidden that even i can't find sometimes. sometimes i can't find myself at all and i wonder where i have gone. i also sometimes feel like this is not my body, just a useless lump of bones that i have to carry around. thank you for asking poppet and everyone for sharing. puppetRead More...

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catalyst
(((CAT))) I went to a chiropractor some years back. I couldn't turn my head to the right (not good when driving) and my whole shoulder area and trapezius muscle around my wing was in knots. It was before therapy and just the start of it for me as I hadn't even noticed that I couldn't turn my head to the right. It's so cool that you are finding that it's helping you with your emotions as well. I need to be able to concentrate better.Read More...
I feel bad for you that feel squirmy or yucky inside when your name is said. I wish that it would bring you comfort. Whenever my ex-T said my name, it usually made me feel more connected to her. Today I got up the nerve to ask new P what she wanted me to call her, Dr.S or her first name. She said whatever I want is fine with her. She said younger clients often seem to want to call her Dr. but "mature" clients (I guess that means older?) often prefer to be on a first name basis. So maybe...Read More...

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I would highly recommend the book Why Zebras Don't Get Ulcers by Robert Sapolsky if you're interested in the mind-body connection and the effects of cumulative stress on the body. It's fascinating and the author is really funny.Read More...

Anorexia

dreamwhisperer
Thanks scars09 and catalyst for responding. My T knows about my ED and I contacted my nutritionist to get back on track. I was hospitalized 18 mo ago for very low weight and had to go through re-feeding also. Since then I have gained weight and had stop restricting, but recent painful emotional work w/T triggered my ED to rare its Ugly Head! and I don't feel in control of not restricting and wanting to lose weight. I guess for me it's a way of controlling something when the intense emotional...Read More...
Oh, Diva, that must have been weird to have seen her while being in that state. I can't believe the counseling center is right next to your dorm. Lots of opportunities for running into T. It probably wouldn't have bothered me as much in college as it would now though. xxRead More...

Travels

yakusoku
I sent a text this morning to ask if it was ok to text during my trip, because of some hard stuff that came up, and said sorry if the last text was weird. He replied that it was not at all weird, he really appreciated it and it was endearing (his code word for cute, because I hate when he uses that word about me. I know he feels that way too, because it's been talked about, but I've never said it to him, because I can't even call him by any name directly (only when I address an email to...Read More...

Noise maker

R2G, Good responsible T's we both have. I see mine in two hours...yeah! Sometimes seeing a different one if even only for testing in my case makes us appreciate ours more. She always deserved it but I didn't always know that. HopefulRead More...
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