Draggers & Avoidant, Glad to hear she and her family are ok. LL, It does seem like a "Liese" thing. I don't know how the stuff gets resolved without re-creating lots of pain. If I ever figure out that part I'll let you know LOL!Read More...

I am really late to this but sorry to hear that you have stepped down. I wish you all the best and hope it goes well with T school. ButterflyRead More...

hi! no idea what to say or why things are fraught since I'm out of the loop- but hi to all! :hugRead More...

Thanks Liese!Read More...

(((BLT))) No apologies needed. I have, myself, occasionally bit off more than I could chew in terms of revealing stuff about myself to others and I am grateful that this forum gives me the opportunity to retract when I am feeling unsafe, though I regret when it interferes with the flow of threads.Read More...

I thought it was a good article too, but unlike Liese reserve the right to compliment my daughter on her intelligence. Articles on overparenting confuse me sometimes. It seems the balance between appropriate protection/precaution and just overdoing it is socially and situationally constructed. I mean, life is always going to have risks, and there are going to be some risks that we choose to protect our kids from-- how do we really know when we are going overboard and doing them a disservice?Read More...

I am assuming this 'stupid thing' is a form of coping mechanism. (If not, just ignore this post, then it is completely off topic). I am not always coping in the most healthy way. I haven't been able to tell the details as she is very vague when it comes to having people admitted to the hospital and I don't feel save sharing it with her. However, she knows that I have some coping mechanisms that are not considered 'good'. When we discussed the matter, she told me that she would be a bad T if...Read More...

(((Kashley and Monte))) thank youRead More...

Hi Monte... I have definitely done this. I use ideas and phrases I have learned from my T. A favorite is... just because it sounds scary does not mean it's dangerous. And... keep your head up. I don't really get annoyed when those words come out of my mouth. It makes me smile and then I feel closer to T and that is a good feeling. I'm sure your T has many wise phrases that you cannot help but incorporate. Hugs TNRead More...

TAS... I'm just catching up on things here. What a lovely post to read by you. I'm so glad you have felt helped here and supported in your therapy. I know I may have been tough on you at times (I learned that from my own T!) but it was because I believed you were working with a good T and that if you stuck with therapy you would be feeling better. Yeah, it can be really hard at times and things seem to move so slow it feels like you are standing still but things are slowly changing. Just...Read More...

Hey Liese, I think one of the things here is that a desk is perfectly balanced by itself, and is naturally fixed in one position. Human bodies are floppy and flexible, except when tensed, so we can move around. Without muscle tension, we do fall over (as in fainting or sudden death). If you think about how many tiny muscle movements are involved in keeping someone upright, and how fast the adjustments need to be made, you might get an idea of what the inner ear is helping with. One way of...Read More...

I see it's been done! Thanks JD LLRead More...

Hey there Anon, thanks for letting us know how you are doing. Sorry that things are still rough for you . Hope you are managing to take good care of yourself, despite the messages telling you otherwise. Sending you lots of supportive hugs LLRead More...

I totally go through music-less periods LL, though they are usually short lived. Sometimes I just need quiet. Period. Other times, I need anything but quiet! Sometimes I listen to music that I know will hurt, because I want to just cry for a while. Strange, I know, but I do know what sets me off, and if I am crabby and just need an excuse to cry, I have a playlist just for that purpose. Songs for rough patches..... Here's a few: P!nk - Perfect, Please Don't Leave Me Green Day - Wake Me Up...Read More...

Jane, thanks for the update. You were as informative as you could be, I suspect, under the circumstances. Good job. I missed everything that came down, so I haven't commented on anything, regarding this issue. I must say I am quite confused about it all, but I am glad that it is getting resolved.Read More...

I pretty much agree with TAS here. I think if there is a real conflict it should be dealt with privately and mediated by shrinklady or the mods. However if it's something that's gone public on the OF, we should be advised it's being dealt with and the parties involved are being helped through the problem. just my 2 cents worth and quick gut reaction !Read More...

Yeah, goodbyes are tough for me too. I'm not very good at them. hugs to all feeling sadRead More...

The moderators are part of what f ?? Perhaps you can tell me what I am part of, I'd be really interested to know. starfishyRead More...

You're welcome BF - it's my pleasure. Good luck with whatever you decide to do next. Maybe you could update here? LLRead More...

(((BG))) All my kids are gone by 8 a.m. and home by 3. It sounded like such a gift after summer vacation but it really does fly, doesn't it? Why can't we just block out the dust? Hope tomorrow has less interference for you. I'm going to put on the kettle now. Would you like to join me for a cup of tea?Read More...

Hello Anon, I don't have anything reassuring to add seeing as how I don't have children and haven't got any experience of what you are going through. Just wanted to pipe up to say I'm glad Boo is able to get back to school and relieve both you and her of the stress surrounding her being sick. Hope she gets better really quickly. LLRead More...

Av - "Poor little bunny..." I think one of those scientists works over in my neck of the woods, if I remember correctly.Read More...

(((xoxo))) i'm sorry that you're leaving but you have given us a lot and i have seen you grow and become more free and lighter and more open and that is truly inspiring and i'm so happy for you!!! i hope that you pop in and say hello once in a while, but even if you can't, i will think of you once in a while anyway and smile good luck to you too xx hugs, puppetRead More...

Hi Catalyst I was finally able to relieve some of my emotional pain last night as I sat with God so the pain is still here yet much more manageable. I like how you explained the shame tied to the anger- Thank you that helps alot! : ) I haven't heard from my therapist yet as it is the weekend and he has Fridays off so I will have to wait until Monday. I ended up sending him 3 total emails. One with a prayer request, one asking for a second appt and another deep prayer request based on...Read More...

I was able to let go of some deep sexual pain with my male T. It was really a great feeling once I was able to say it out loud. Now we can talk about orgasm and other sexual words without much shame. Bringing things into the Light feels so good and freeing.Read More...