Thanks everyone. It is fascinating to read about how different T relationships go in all these little details. So fun to learn that some of you make lighthearted, just for fun communications regularly. Knowing this somehow makes me feel like lightening up a bit, lol, as opposed to worrying over this. I'm sure T will just be amused if anything. She hasn't emailed me back but probably she will say something about it at our next session. Looking forward to her reaction.Read More...

Jane, I'm so glad you revived this thread and wow, those things are huge. It is so hard for me to take healthy steps (physical, medical, relational) when I have been struggling, so doing all three of those in one day is amazing. 1. I accepted help from both H and T, even though it terrified me at first. 2. I was able to apply some of the encouragement T gives me on my own. 3. I set a boundary about what I am physically/emotionally capable of doing right now (a family event) without feeling...Read More...

Hi-I may be totally off on this but it must be some kind of balancing act. I kept thinking that I should devote more energy to life and step away since sooo much energy was going to therapy. Then I stopped therapy & so much seemed to turn upside down instead of gaining energy it was gone & there was just a hole in it's place. It was like the thing that was helping me find direction was gone. I have recently restarted after a month and a half with a new T & I already am happy to...Read More...

((scars)) I'm glad you got something figured out!! Thanks for updating. I can relate to making health/family decisions and having it be really crappy financially and you're right... gotta do what you gotta do. Wishing you luck - and I hope you've found good help for the ED (you said you were looking). I was so blessed with the place I found. It has helped a lot... and YEA it was scary!! Worth it though... to be kind to yourself.Read More...

2nd hand stores are a great place to look... and you can buy timers and apps on your phone if you have a phone that supports apps. I have one for getting me to sleep it includes kitten purrs, clocks, rain, the ocean, train noise... all kinds of stuff It's said (the ticking stuff) to calm animals down because it's like the sound of a heartbeat? I dunno.Read More...

DRAGGERS, It's been fun listening to everyone's favorite songs and expanding my universe. I too love The Boxer and I am a Rock. Nannabee, one of my spin instructor's always plays bittersweet symphony but I never knew the name of it before. LOL!Read More...

The online interpretations seem to fit me well, at least in my subjective experience of myself. I dunno what the war zone explains (one of the sites said lots of moving is wanting to change oneself for the better). But I do know it makes my bed annoying to make in the morning with the blankets all up in a pretzel. Sometimes I wake up with my head at the foot end of the bed. Hee. Thanks for the links.Read More...

Thank you Draggers! It means a lot coming from you. You are right normally I do exactly what you described.....being angry/irritated/hurt etc etc and just doing it anyway in order to keep the peace or not offend. I have to say it is a huge relief to just say "no" and be done with it. Thanks for your support! B2WRead More...

Thank you Dragonfly I knew from the beginning that NewT would just be there until December. I also hope OldT will be willing to have a meeting with NewT and me, where we can discuss if there is some ground for further work together. Thank you for your suggestion. It is a good advice. I have talked about it with NewT. He says he´s not going to leave me until he know´s I´m safe with another T, OldT or some other. Hearing him say that makes me less anxious about the whole situation. He also...Read More...

OK so I am a little late to respond... Meet the Fockers (all of them) Slumdog Millionaire Driving Miss Daisy Steel Magnolias Fried Green tomatoes One flew over the cuckoos nest Liar Liar Ace Venture Pet detective Best Exotic Marriot hotel Arthur Mississippi burning Dead Poet's society Forest GumpRead More...

lol, Cat, did not die laughing at your post although your last comment did make me smile. Sorry I did not reply before now. The exercise did not seem all that strange to me, because I have gone to see a hypnotherapist a couple times for learning relaxation, etc. and she's talked me through some similar things. I've never used it for nausea before though so I was wondering how you did that. Thank you for explaining. I was actually trying it just this morning and it helped a little. And thanks...Read More...

I understand your feelings. I pray that we all find inner peace one day because we've struggled so much in our lives thus far that I believe that we all deserve some sort of reprieve. You do so much, Anon. You deserve to exist just as much as the rest of us here in the world. I know it's sometimes hard to believe that. I, too, find myself questioning how much of something I deserve. I also have been known to distract myself by getting things done, or as you said "pummeling myself into...Read More...

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hope you do some catching up (((Draggers))). Wish I could offer remedies to you all but you got most established methods covered!!!Read More...

((BG)) I'm glad you feel better today. I'm glad the librarian was so sweet - sometimes when we don't expect it, people can hit that 'spot' if they are the right person, and it's the right time. So sorry about your situation - I hope the stubborn subsides - I've heard tons of stories about how absolutely hard getting older parents to transition is.Read More...

Well you could just tell him that if he wants her to do the activity you give him permission to pick her up at your convenience, take her to the activity and then drop her off once again at a time that is convenient to you. That way he will be doing the running around. If he is not happy with doing the running around then how can he expect you to be happy with it? You have your life, another child to consider and everyday household chores, as well as your duty as a mother to fit in quality...Read More...

Brokes- thanks for all the advice, really hice to hear from someone else who's had similar experiences What is the main theme of my anxiety is my friendships like "Was she being cold with me?" and then I get reaaaally worried and obsess over everything that happens between us. I also worry about being left out of the group and stuff. But lately, having gone into a serious year I am stressing about study and school etc. Update; I had two TERRIBLE days, where I felt everything was...Read More...

Thanks xoxo and Liese for your comments and thoughts. I do appreciate them and they have made me think. Sorry I haven't replied before now. I've tried a couple times, but it seems as if the frustration with T is coming from a very young and currently very vocal (in my thoughts) part of me, and it's a struggle to detach enough from it to write about the frustration with any level of maturity or intelligence beyond that of an annoyed five year old. I don't know if that makes any sense. It's...Read More...

Just needed some rest Morgs. Thank you for this.Read More...

Rooms, (((hugs)))) We had some events at work about Suicide awareness. I was really touched. You know its the 2nd leading cause of death for our youth... How can we (as a society) go around sympathizing about cancer and heart disease, but remain so silent about suicide??? Thank you for bringing it to our attention. the more focus, the better. Every little bit counts.Read More...

Yay, thanks Butterfly Becca - LOL sometimes I think I dream topics too, I just couldn't remember it Usually I can find anything! Draggers - that's about how long I was digging too. I love the word 'potty' haRead More...

(((Cat))) I can so connect to feeling like a fraud - I feel like any moment people will realize I'm not who they think I am. Actually, I connect with all that you wrote... and can only offer my empathy as I know what you're going through since I'm there too. Sending more (((cat)))Read More...

lots of really good suggestions here. bike riding, hiking, driving with the radio on, book store, library, kayaking. are you familiar with meetups? those are a wonderful way to connect with others with your interests. just google meetup and you're pretty much in. those are all way i try to cope. i was divorced a year ago and have an 18 and a 16 year old and they are becoming more independent, which leaves more alone time for me which is not necessarily a welcome thing. quite the contrary,...Read More...

So beautiful!! I am sure your T is VERY VERY touched by what you have brought into his life over the past two years. This was symbolically the most touching sweet thing, Anon. You are so sweet. Congrats on two years!Read More...

Good luck with everything you will be missed!Read More...