((scars)) I really understand your feelings there - I'm glad though that even despite it being difficult... it was able to touch you. I think tears can teach us so much about ourselves. I have a hard time with compliments about some things, over time there are things I have learned that my opinion (most of the time) is positive too. One of the things I learned in DBT (a sort of "life skills" type of group therapy I did for my eating issues) is that when people give compliments most of the...Read More...

Hey guys. Sorry for my delay in replying. Thank you again for helping me see everything a little clearer. I spent a lot of time yesterday thinking about how I feel about her saying that she loves me, and yes, it is scary, but it's the kind of scary that will eventually turn to safety once I can see that she won't abuse that "power." Because, I do trust her - even more now because of yesterday's session. It's not complete trust, but it's deeper than I've ever felt before. She had known...Read More...

Thanks for the replies, ladies. I called T and explained that I had a cold and was contagious, and said that I supposed she'd rather switch to a phone session. She took me up on it rather quickly, lol. We also switched to an early afternoon appointment since I was going to be home anyway. Actually had a good and rather productive session! I just got off the phone with her. Now if you all will excuse me I must go blow my nose again. . . Thanks for the well wishes! luv, --meRead More...

Here is one I actually do like. http://www.thatonerule.com/rule/663Read More...

((((BG)))) The mind is so amazing, isn't it? Is it possible that part of you is worried that you won't be able to, for whatever reason, talk about whatever it is that you want to talk about in your next session? Either you both will be distracted or you will lose your courage and the dream is another part of you is reminding you that you'd better stay focused on the issue you really want to talk about?Read More...

In my opinion, emotional pain is worse than any other pain. It is impossible to measure, comes from nowhere and hurts the deepest. From my experience, flashbacks continue on and on until I have deal with what lies at the root of it. Sometimes this has been fairly straightforward, by talking about the memory, it has in turn deal with the fear and with great relief the images have subsided. For other issues it has been much harder and the flashbacks are more stubborn, seemingly relentless at...Read More...

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Hi km... you are not alone you have all of us here to reach out to. Talking through how you are feeling with others can be very helpful. The other idea is to then get out of your house. Run an errand, go to a coffee shop or a store with a food counter. Browse around and shop or just people watch. That will take your mind away from being alone and you may even strike up a conversation with someone else sitting nearby. It's really helpful if you can make a habit out of going to the same place...Read More...

I like to think that even the "darker" parts of ourselves have some kind of positive intent to them, even if it's usually misguided. For example, feeling vengeful means you want people to know they can't get away with doing horrible things, so they will think twice about it in the future. Sometimes we are mean because we are trying to protect ourselves, or because some part of us wants the other person to experience how we feel when people are mean to us. I think being a whole person means...Read More...

Hi everyone, Thanks for chiming in with your stories of similitude. Reading through this thread and realizing these thoughts are more common than I feared made me smile. I guess you never know until you ask, right? Thanks again. Love you all bunches, --meRead More...

Starrynights, Thanks for sharing the story about your dad. I know I tend to fret a lot when I am not making as much money as I want, so I will remember I can be happy with less.Read More...

Frosty, I am glad it's a happy bye, but please know you will be missed and we would love to see you if you ever pop back. Thank you for all your contibutions and support, starfishyRead More...

My T never picks up so I always leave a message. I used to text her, sometimes only texting hi, and she would text me back hello. But T had already said she did not want me to text conversations anymore, because she can't read my emotions and see where I am at, ( we had already had a misunderstanding via text) plus she mentioned boundaries, as in I am crossing them. I actually would text her thoughts I couldn't tell her in person, because I was to ashamed. I was angry she will not text me...Read More...

thanks for your comment. I will keep reaching out.Read More...

CAT, thanks for your comments. My jealousy is much less than in the past, but when I see a client leaving my T's office I still wonder if he is more interesting, or she likes him more than me, and I am just another client to her. She once told me she has a special place in her heart for me, I didn't want to believe her, but part of me very much wants to believe her. I thought she probably says that to all her clients. Now I believe she is telling me the truth... more than likely. My psyc.Read More...

Hi, Thank you both for the information. )Read More...

Wolfie... I'm sorry I missed this post. Of course you must be feeling very sad and depressed over hearing this news from your P. I was abandoned and banished by my oldT so I know how horrible it can feel. I think the best scenario in your case is to work together with your P to find someone who specializes in DID and who can take you further than your P ever could. I do agree though that it was insensitive of your P to say that he was relieved. He should have kept those thoughts to himself...Read More...

Thanks you guys. Sorry it took me a while to come back to this. Hit a bit of a rough patch, but hanging in there. Sorry, also, for the confusion on who I am. I figured my ridiculous post count would give me away immediately.Read More...

Glad everyone is okay Liese!Read More...

AG, glad to hear that you know what is going on with your daughter. Hope things continue to get better. Take care.Read More...

Wow great article BG thank you!!Read More...

Very glad to hear she's okay, AG. I hope that the time with your T is soothing, because you definitely deserve it. It's been a turbulent time for you.Read More...

hi HIC, i guess its good she's looking after herself, but i am sorry if it will affect you as well. you sound very understanding though and very caring and considerate - and i'm sure she appreciates it too. i have been in a similar situation with my old T, and if she doesn't look after herself, it can affect your therapy. i really did see her grieving for a while even though she never talked about it, and it was harder for me to bring stuff up. my only regret looking back now is that i wasnt...Read More...

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