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PTSD + relationships = ack! - updated

Hey JD I said the other day and after reading this I repeat it - I think Andrew is having serious PTSD or after effects or a mental breakdown after the incident that happened. I actually think that in some bizarre way - he is desperately asking for help from your T for his own issues but can't bring himself to ask directly. I think your T should recommend a few names to him and see if that helps Andrew. As far as his behaviour etc goes - too much has happened JD - just get out of there. Bad...Read More...
Total guilt all the time about a lot of things! I adopted my daughter and she has reactive attachment disorder. I have my own attachment problems. I wonder so often if I shouldn't have adopted her and maybe she could have gone to a more normal family. I also have a psychopathic dad and brother who play games and hurt me emotionally all the time. My daughter certainly doesn't need that.Read More...

New years resolutions check in

catalyst
My New Years resolution is that by next January 1st I will not need to make a New Years resolution because I'll be consistently working on the things that I need to focus on to get better. Haha. Um, New Years resolutions don't really work for me, principally because I have a motivation problem and have had since I was 15. I guess my New Years resolution could be to be more motivated Lol. I just want to get better. That's all. The rest will follow.Read More...

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blackbird
Great, Cat, now I have that theme song stuck in my head. I will provide socks and slippers and a space heater for your toes to keep them toasty in the meantime!Read More...
It's funny... speaking of Good Will Hunting, I had watched that before embarking on my therapeutic journey. At the time, the Robin Williams character seemed like the perfect therapist. Now I think back, and I cringe. Strangling your client? Meeting outside of the office? Disclosing your wife's farting habits? Talk about loose boundaries! Clearly not very realistic. I mean, even getting up from my chair in T's office feels like a huge deal. !!!Read More...

What do you do for fun?

athenacus
Oh I love this discussion! Makes me forget how crummy things are right now...but let's see hmmm...what do I do for fun? -jam out to the wonderful Celine Dion! -bake -experiment with make up and hair -write -theatre (whether performing or behind the scenes I love it all!) -watch my shows which are NCIS, Bones and more recently The New Girl, Hot in Cleveland, and Spartacus -be a lazy butt with my kitty (when Im in my hometown) -sew (I've come to realize it relaxes me) -LAUGH! (I laugh at...Read More...
Xoxo - yes, the interaction with adults is definitely a plus and these are really great people, fun, funny, and I know accepting of me already. I think, you know, I've just turned 31. There is plenty of time for what could be without having to worry I've sabotaged myself beyond repair. Like you say, it's not like I have no options at all. I would love it if they would let me do it part-time, but I doubt that's the case. Liese - I should clarify that the 50 hours includes travel time to drop...Read More...
Ah, and this: JICTAADCTNTSO. : Just in case there are any delays, contact the national travel service on.. No, just kidding lol. There will be entire acronym sentences one day, mark my words MMW. Ah, thats a good one! I might write a dictionary and dedicate it to Johnson. Other real ones are (if your feeling particularly down and expressive at the same time and you need to vent, post haste); FML: F**k my life. FFS: For f**k sake.Read More...

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xoxo
hi xoxo, just a quick one to say i hope you're doing better (it sounds like you're doing better in the last couple of posts). i found it sad when you said that you're tired and not a fighter anymore, because I really think you ARE a fighter and always will be. hugs, puppetRead More...

Feeling your emotions.

forgetmenot
Hey guys, thanks for the responses. Sorry for the late reply here! I think I just have to trust in the moment more. I obsess about monitoring myself and my emotional episodes so much that I cannot 'let go'. I fear doing something 'wrong'. Maybe it's simply a matter of relaxing and letting go and seeing what happens instead of trying to attain emotional enlightenment by tomorrow. Ha. Thanks againRead More...

Affirmations

Liese, I liked your analogy about playing catch, actually. I don't know if I could explain it, but it resonated with me. So thank you.Read More...
Hey there, I'm 30, and went through a similar process, though without children involved. I'm sorry to hear about what you're going through, but can assure you - It does get better. I went through a period of time where my Ex-H would show up in the middle of the night pounding on doors, in tears or any other type of measure he could fathom to instill guilt, and ruin my new relationship. It was horrendous, and I seriously considered a restraining order. My experience couldn't possibly compare...Read More...

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deffe
R2G - I've never heard anyone express my exact thoughts about somehow "tricking" people and/or tricking myself and not seeing what others claim to see. I have told my T I am a walking facade - a master of disguise. Why is it so hard to believe we are that which others see? Continuing to be our parents to ourselves is so damaging and it's so hard to break the negative cycle when a lifetime of words and actions have created our deep seated beliefs....Read More...
Mayo it was good and brave for you to confront these things with T and clear the air before moving ahead with other things. I never see my current T out of session although a have seen him in his parking lot a few times going for the afternoon mail so I have no idea how it would feel to run into him in so many outside places. We have discussed it though as to how we would both behave so that was a good thing. I have, unexpectedly, run into old T at that seminar I attended and it did not go...Read More...

Attention

Attachment Girl
This was the topic in my last session which was 6 Dec. I have not posted about it because it was very emotional...maybe I will in the sensitive issues. It was tearful but then we cracked jokes about stuff so there was lots of laughter too and some more tears mixed in. Next week we will probably explore reasons but again it will be last appt. for another month. I wanted to share with everyone because I wanted to hear thoughts but also because I see many of us feel a lot of guilt and like...Read More...

anybody?

Liese Thanks for your encouragement. I had to close my business last year due to a breakdown and haven't been able to get back up again. I have gone into total isolation and can't even manage anything at the moment. So no work yet. I also don't manage to go out or to go to a friend, I get severe panic attacks. So it's just me. I've been in therapy for a year now. It feels as if I'm a bunny trying to climb out of a whole just to have somebody shooting at me! Thanks Smiley, hopeful and...Read More...

Of Winter Coats and Prozac

strummergirl
Made it through the holidays! ((((Liese)))) Thanks! I'm glad the AD's help you, too. I do remember why I fought the idea of taking them - it was because I had heard it could be really difficult to find the "right" one, and that some of the side effects could be uncomfortable to downright frightening. I am so grateful that the one I tried first seems to work well enough to help with minimal side effects. ((((Pandora)))) So good to see you!! Thank you for popping in to say hi. I hope you had a...Read More...

Sad my Therapy's Ending

(((hugs))) I congratulate you on your hard work! I'm going through something similar. I've spent the last 20 months w/my T. I'm going to miss her soooo much! We are ending in April. We have had sessions stretched out for quite a while now. I only see her once every 3 or 4 weeks. Just wanted to let you know that there is yet another person who is going through this too. You are not alone.Read More...

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xoxo
Well, I don't know about content per se, but I think there is a delicate balance to what you pick for a starting sentence in terms of how hard it is to draw. If it's too hard to draw or too complicated, the next person might just give up in frustration, or too much will get lost. If it's too easy, you won't get enough change throughout the iterations, so it won't really be funny.Read More...

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pf
Frosty, Merry Christmas! Thanks for coming by, it was good to hear from you. AGRead More...
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