Thank you so much to you all... I nearly had to cancel my session this week due to things related to my dad's surgery but was able to keep it. I actually had to call my T back and ask for the original session because I'd already rescheduled. Thank goodness I could keep this week's instead of having to wait more than a week, because as soon as I hung up the phone from my T after rescheduling (I couldn't manage to tell her anything - I just pretended it was a 'pesky' scheduling conflict ), I...Read More...

Oh, I am sorry...i had to delete, I am not sure why... apologies, all aroundRead More...

A friend of mine mentioned that perhaps viewer discretion should be in order. It makes sense. I mean films that show bloodshed are usually rated 15 or over. Why should the news be any different? UV; I'm sure it wasn't. I was funny about putting this up incase people didn't agree with it being up. Most of the posts, if not all, seem to be about therapy but it did say coffee talk! Ha.Read More...

((((BUTTERFLY)))) Will miss you. Take good care of yourself while you are gone. xoxo LieseRead More...

BG, Yeah, it was a red flag for me too. Not enough to make me want to find another T, because I feel I am doing some good work with this T and have improved a lot as a result of therapy with her already, but I'm keeping an eye on things. I'm hoping what happened in the pregnancy session was just a poor judgement call on her part. . . none of her other disclosures have had a negative effect on my therapy, so I guess I can deal with a random mistake as long as it doesn't turn into a frequent ...Read More...

i just stumbled across this thread, as i was looking for a "Jones post". I was telling my husband about your cute link... "It's ok if your shoes aren't diong it." Our duaghter- both took ballet. Ok- now that I am here, i guess I should comment on the topic, hmmm... Conflict in our house- meant run for cover, duck, hide...he is home. He was the source of conflict, and he (my father) did not tolerate conflict unless he was causing it. Run was always my m. o. but I am learning that conflict...Read More...

Oh Hoosier, I don't know what to say except that I am so sorry. Finding that picture had to be incredibly painful and then to learn that his obit never mentioned his previous family to boot. You didn't even know he died? BIG HUGS, LieseRead More...

Hi Newtothis, Wow, my gut reaction is, wait until you and your wife feel comfortable with the request- if that ever comes. If you've only been seeing your T for four months, there is still a lot s/he has to learn about you. And s/he should be concerned only about you. What your wife or your wife's T thinks really does not matter. In addition, if you and your wife are in counseling together (congratulations) then I think that should be enough. I'm not usually this opinionated but I just don't...Read More...

It's difficult with me because I tend to put labels on myself at the moments that I feel most vulnerable or emotional. I don't know if I have it fully. I think I will just try and deal with my feelings without labelling symptoms and if it gets too bad anytime, I'll go to get assessed. I can cope pretty well in daily life right now. I need my therapist to monitor the way I speak, act, intellectualize for her to see the patterns. It's too confusing for me. If it is BPD, BPD can be overcome...Read More...

MH I just don’t get your T. I can see why she’d say it was a mistake on her part to initiate texting you that day because she seems to feel that had she not done it, things wouldn’t have turned out the way they did. But it does seem grossly unfair to say it was a mistake when it’s exactly the sort of contact you’re needing. It does sound that she is thinking of your best interests, but that doesn’t necessarily mean that she’s getting it right. I really do not like her analogy using your...Read More...

SG Thanks for sharing. It puts a much different and kinder spin on things to ask instead, what have I learned? instead of always viewing everything through the failure lens.Read More...

missing you much!!!Read More...

beauty4ashes ~ wow, wonderfully beautiful poem!Read More...

Kashley, So glad you like the name, I have to give credit to Strummergirl for the original nickname of Boundary Ninja and to DF for adding the "Tales" part. I am very grateful to both of them, as I must confess, I found the name very fitting. Hi River!! It's is wonderful to hear from you, I am delighted that you will be reading! Thank you. HIC, So glad you found the list useful! As I said, I really really should be getting a commission for General Theory of Love. I hope you enjoy it, it...Read More...

Welcome from me, too! Looking forward to seeing you around! BBRead More...

((((TN)))) I don't know if you appreciate what you just did but it was really terrific and it seems like you just took two big steps forward. You really stood up for yourself with your T in a very nice and assertive way and I love the way he responded. xoxo Liese I am editing this to add that I hope that doesn't come across as condescending or patronizing.Read More...

Blackbird: Nice to meet you too! A trip it is indee!. Even if I think of my T's name it makes me feel...I'm not sure. Like I want to hug her and kiss her and say 'Come with me, lets go fly around the world!'. It becomes too overwhelming. Too interpersonal right now. To embarrassing. If I used her name in session, I don't know what I would do. Run out the room I think and go red or something.. She says my name every now and then. It feels very formal rather than comforting for some reason. It...Read More...

((DF)) Thank you, DF. I'm sorry your ED has been so hard lately.Read More...

Yeah, 50+ views with no comments is the worst. I try to imagine that there is just some forum gnome who views the same post over and over again to harass me or something. Between my ridiculously large post count and thread-count views, it's a wonder that I am not in a constant state of PAD myself...only NEAR constant.Read More...

(((newtothis))) Great job! I know how hard that first conversation (and well, many after) can be!Read More...

Ok - I'll try. 1. A Gardenia - I just love the smell. It is so peaceful. I love the look of the beautiful white flower against the deep dark green leaves. 2. I've always said I would be a bird but I really think I'd like to me a wild mustang running free through the wild west. 3. My book, Hmmm... Finally free 4, If I ruled the world, there would be stronger punishments for criminals. The money in this country, would stay in this country. Perhaps then we would be able to care for our own...Read More...

Hey Ladygrey. Aye the anonymity is something I like a lot. Privacy is a very big thing too. Exposure is threatening. Hmm sometimes I delete things too. I've been thinking of deleting a few replies on here where my identity is shown, but I'm resting assured that I'm conspicuous enough as it is!Read More...

It was brought on by financial problems. I have pinpointed the exact problem. I am looking for a technique or some advice on what to expect when this happens. Can anyone help with this? My sympathetic nerve is stuck on.Read More...