Jane, Not out of place at all for you to do something and I'm amazed that amidst being triggered that you were able to be a voice for that child. Hopefully it leads to positive change for the parent and the child. In answer to the original question, no it's not normal and not okay to curse at a child. I think all parents have moments of frustration where they raise their voice and might not handle themselves the best, but cursing and yelling at a child is abusive and not okay.Read More...

(((Mayo))) So happy for you. I'm glad your T really made sure you heard him, because it was important for you to receive his really caring how he had hurt you.Read More...

aw, thanks everybody!!!! (((((group hug))))) my birthday was lovely, I spent it in a tulip garden in the Netherlands taking pictures all day. It was gorgeous! Thanks again!Read More...

(((((DF)))))) I am very sorry for your loss. It sounds as though you are going through a lot right now. Big hugs and lots of positive vibes sent your way.Read More...

Sorry, yeah, posted it in another thread. Phone session went OK.Read More...

One more thing for those of you who have not been reimbursed. This is for you Holding on, In NY this law went into effect in 2007. I would check your state's websites to see when the parity law went into effect. Because you may be able to get reimbursed for past years. Most insurance companies are not going to reimburse you unless you ask for it.Read More...

I have had what you're describing before, but this is typical of my severe dissociation, so in this case, I don't think it's breathing-related. I'm actually not really anxious, just ugh, overwhelmed by too many feelings at once that are non-congruent with one another. I don't know if that makes sense. Boo and I are listening to the songs I have to learn for church band practice right now. I have to get familiar with them by 7:00 pm, so I can get some good practice behind the kit. My main...Read More...

*inarticulate*...Lol...see..Read More...

Liese you are a good and compassionate person as evident by your understanding and forgiveness of your MIL's past behaviors. They would be difficult for anyone to understand and live with so don't be so hard on yourself. It is very sad that so many who would benefit from mental health counseling don't get it. I hope both you and your MIL find healing. Hugs TNRead More...

((((YAKU)))) Totally understand how difficult it will be. Hope you can try to take good care of yourself while H is gone. LieseRead More...

I also like the cool smilies... I find your proliferation of smilies in above post...endearing. I like the idea of an introduction area, it's a good one.Read More...

I mean that i am not allowed to have this, Like i shouldn't be holding my therapists baby cause our relationship is in that room and no where else. I am envading his space. I do psycho-dynamic therapy and my therapist is an expert at being blank. I think he holds his boundaries my tight. i would not say i have enmashed relationships. CNCRead More...

Thanks for the Mother's Day wishes and many blessing to all you ladies as well. I played drums at church. We had six families dedicate themselves to raising their new babies lovingly and respectfully (a reminder of when we did that with Boo two years ago...and that I'm still trying to live up to. I did not see any family (my mom's gigs weren't Boo-friendly locations and my MIL went to visit my SIL who is a new mom. We did get lunch with friends (the ones who lived with us last year) and they...Read More...

(((UV))) Thanks so much. Getting kind of worked up with Mother's Day being tomorrow (not even feeling like I deserve or want to be celebrated), so this was a good reminder. I think a lot of my feelings are tied to being a mom figure to my two little sisters and the fact that my H's condition affected them and I couldn't or didn't protect them as I should have. I have lost some of my role in their lives as a result. It hurts so F---ing bad. Ugh, stuff I want to say right now belongs in either...Read More...

Monte- this is wise. Some people find the missing piece in God. Some say- the missing piece is the reason for their spiritual seeking, their spiritual journey. Many HUGS to you - (((((((((((((((MTF)))))))))))))) ps- i just found this- " May you experience the Love of Christ, though it is too great to understand fully. Then you will be made complete (whole) with all the fullness of life and power that comes from God." "Your roots will grow down into God's love and keep you strong, and may you...Read More...

The interview with Mark was indeed very good. I will be waiting for it to come out here near me. Shaking your Fist at God resonated so much with me because when our son was killed I did exactly that for I felt he had turned away from me in my grief. TY AG for posting this.Read More...

So Monte, Are you saying it's okay for me to want these things from him or any therapist for that matter? Or that I am trying to script thing? Or he is trying to script things? Sorry just a little confused about your post. LieseRead More...

DF, Thank you for being so gracious and quick to forgive. (and thank you Jane!) DF, I really appreciate that you were able to recognize that my intention was not to to hurt you, but I don't want you walking away from this feeling like the whole problem was your sensitivity or taking it too personally. Don't get me wrong, I'm not trying to say I'm evil incarnate and my intention was not to hurt you, but nevertheless, I blew it. It was thoughtless of me to answer someone else on YOUR thread,...Read More...

I told T that it was stressful, but not my projections. He apologized and then explained. He explained so much that it got to the point of me wishing I hadn't told him it stressed me out, because he was wasting MY therapy time on trying to reassure me that it was just his blunder in a very busy day and nothing to do with me. Well, if I genuinely believed it was intentionally directed at me, I wouldn't have shown up, silly T!Read More...

Thanks Yaku, thank you Smiley- you're really sweet. BBRead More...

Thanks, Monte. I do think it's good for him to leave things open for me when things need to run over...but also that we were doing it almost every time was probably setting me up for disaster in the long run. Honestly, I wish all sessions were 1.5 hours long, because the ones that have run that long are the ones I leave most grounded from. Any longer is too exhausting and any shorter I either leave regretting having held stuff in and not connecting or having started something we couldn't...Read More...

DF, So glad that you saw T and it helped! Sorry about the headache. Good for you being so open with T. Hope you had a good lunch and soon a good dinner.Read More...

I totally get this LG. I have spent the last month and a half curled up in a ball on the comfy chair in my Ts office. I do know that I'm sinking into it like a kid (it's an oversized chair - I'm rather petite, so I look like a kid in the chair) and curling up wrapping my arms around my knees and twirling my hair. This past session, actually, I even started talking back to my T in that snotty tone I used to use when I was fed up with my parents. She laughed, but I totally felt like I was 13...Read More...

keep us posted on how you are managing to get through those exams... good luck on them! BeebsRead More...

I'm glad you have two good, caring Ts backing you up, LG.Read More...