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Awww LG, thanks. It's funny. Sometimes he tells me how lucky he is to be with me, to be married to his best friend, to have such a great mom for his daughter, etc. And sometimes he is complete @$$ and acts like I do nothing, like I obviously don't care about him and he wishes I realized it a year ago and left him then. But, 99% of the time I talk with T, T can't stop talking about how thankful H is to be with me. So, I wonder if T believes that H ever acts negatively toward me. Also, I...Read More...

Meh, don't want to go.

yakusoku
BB - Actually, usually, he is very client directed. And usually I can say nothing at all unless he picks a topic. However, he always tries very hard to get me to do it. I think that is why he reads my journals. Literally, this guy has read over 140 pages of 1.15 spaced typed work (though some are charts) in eight months, and most of it is since December. He actually says he "loves" my journaling, and it's so good, he thinks I should find a way to organize it into a book, because my words and...Read More...

Small successes

kashley
Thanks everyone! Mayflower - that is so incredible that you were able to do something so effective to keep yourself safe and healthy. And extra kudos for doing it after your first day at a new job. Wow! Jane - that's so hard, making yourself be social when you really, really don't want to. You're brave for going out anyway, and I'm so glad that you had a nice time. Thanks for sharing your experiences...all of it helps me focus on the baby steps I'm trying to take, and I'm sure it helps...Read More...

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pf
I think I understand what you're getting at Mac!! Totally reasonable!!!Read More...

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monte
My T also opens with a prayer. It is the first thing he does, except, "Hi, Yaku, how are you?" and inviting me to come into his office. So, I wouldn't even have the opportunity to ask, because he always asks if we can pray first. I like that he does it, but sometimes some of the things he says in prayers trigger me. It's weird. I guess, because he knows me so well, he really prays for things that target where I am directly and it's like having a bruise poked or something.Read More...
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Should I avoid her?

yakusoku
Church sermon had several things in it today that made me think I am making the wrong decision here. But I can't tell if that's really the case or just a matter of the teaching pastor (NOT the guy who I have been talking stuff over with, but a younger pastor who teaches on occasion) not connecting with me. This particular guy, though a friend since I was about 20, tends to put me off with the way he teaches and the things he said, so maybe I'll just pray about it and stick with my gut...Read More...

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blanketgirl
Welcome back! I'm proud of your H too. That's so awesome. Have a lot of Disneyland memories, some good and some bad. Glad you guys made some good ones!Read More...

Public Meltdown

mad hatter
AG, thanks for coming to my rescue! Cuz if AG can do it, then so can I! I think medical issues can understandably be a big trigger. I mean, first you aren't feeling well physically, then there is anxiety about tests, diagnoses, and procedures. On top of that, sometimes health care providers are arrogant and insensitive. Then there is the financial stress associated with bills, and stress over taking time off work. And anything that has to do with pregnancy, childbirth, or recovery is totally...Read More...

I heart animals

Hi Jane, thanks for starting this thread, and sharing your story about Sophie with us. It is really moving. It's not 'just a dog'. People who would say that are just really insensitive. I'm so sorry for you, TN. It is an awful experience, and I can feel your pain. (((TN))) I've never had a dog, but I couldn't live without animals. I've had cats, horses, rabbits, guinea pigs, gerbils, mice, fish... Last month my rabbit (called Useless) died. He was 10 years old. I am actually really glad you...Read More...

Quick update

kashley
(((((((((Kashley))))))))) Big hugs back your way. No apologies needed, but thanks for checking in. I hope your internet is up and running soon!Read More...

A Belt of Scotch??

blackbird
(((blackbird))) Please be gentle with yourself....you deserve kindness. I know it is understood here that people offer what they can when they can. I also understand the guilt that comes up when we feel depleted and unable to support others. But blackbird...you have offered so much to this forum and to me individually and I know everyone here only wants to lessen your pain. There are reasons that everyone loves you here. It is your turn. Thinking of you....please post if and when you can... ...Read More...

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ladygrey
SO pleased you got there and it went so well LG. If you feel like that again you now know you'll be fine!! I totally understand getting into the 'alone' funk LG and R2Grow - it's like our social skills go hiding!!Read More...

Insomnia

I have before, but not in a while. Yuck. I seriously need to find a way to start getting more than four hours of sleep per night. I need someone to take my toddler for several hours and to not have to watch my nephew and just lay in bed until I can get sleep without worrying that someone in the house will need me, or wake me up disturbingly in my sleep, or scream their head off. I'm F---ing TIRED! Ugh.Read More...

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seablue
seablue, no worries. I'm not feeling over-exposed or anything. It's perfectly OK to delete. (((hugs)))Read More...

Hello....

smiley
Smiley, I'm sure your T would understand if you called her about nameless pain and let her know you need help and you're not even sure if/how she could. I'm sure she'll appreciate you reaching out for what you need, even if you don't know exactly what it is. Maybe she'll be able to help you clarify and identify your feelings. I know T is sometimes able to do that for me (although, it usually takes a few hours before I realize he was right). (((((((((HUGS))))))))))Read More...

I'm doing this...

FF - The first thing you need to do is BREATHE! I know it's corny but it does help a little. I'm not in such a great place right now but I swear, I could have written what you wrote. So much so that my heart was racing with your thoughts! I hope you can try and relax a little and then maybe call your T. SmileyRead More...

I need help helping :(

Hi jp and welcome... You have quite a dilemma on your hands. It sounds like to me that your girlfriend is suffering from anxiety and she could possibily be suffering from some depression. It could also be that she is having problems regulating her emotions and this is causing problems with her interpersonal relationships. I'm not sure if you should be the one to help her or even if you CAN help her. I would recommend that she seek therapy so she can talk to an unbiased person who maybe she...Read More...
My oldest sister is staying in my living room right now. When my other sisters were in this position, they would stay here. He would not be at risk here, since we know H's condition and now have "rules" in place, but I think it would make my sisters who suffered very concerned and hurt. My other older sister lives in a dangerous city, twice as far as I live. My younger sisters (19, 20) both live at home with him, but my mom won't support them in getting him to take care of business. How can...Read More...
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