About, I like this concept a lot. I am sure I have a judge too. But the bit that gives me the most trouble though is what I call my 'overbearing inner protector'. This part of me has learned that the best way to stop me from doing anything that is considered 'risky' (and by risky, I mean activities such as reaching out to other people, trusting others, having faith in myself etc, etc) is to scare the shit out of me by reminding me of all the times the 'risky' behaviour has resulted in...Read More...

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Hello everyone and thank you for your answers! I typed two answers that my computer mysteriously erased and I am just back from France, so I finally have the time to answer properly. That sounds quite like my T, and my reaction, and yet... it works indeed. I guess I am sometimes just too much hoping to get an answer, a "validation" of my feelings that I cannot be patient, bear the uncomfortable feeling and immediatly switch to the next step: feeling I deserve the pain I am feeling. I heard...Read More...

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I'm loving these you guys!Read More...

((((cat)))) So sorry for how tough this must be sending hugs and support and best wishes your wayRead More...

I really like this too Thank you for sharing!!Read More...

(((cogs))) I am so happy for you that things are looking up and you can enjoy being home again! It sounds like a tough experience and I hope there's a break from the stress for awhileRead More...

(((RT))) Hooooray!! So glad to see you here. I only recently returned to the Forum as well, and like you, missed so many people and the support they offer. I am glad you are here. I am sorry for the pain you have gone through with all the T's but am very happy to read your positive outlook on the bottom of the post. Wishing you some peace and warmth this holiday.Read More...

whew!!! that is a relief! i'm so happy for you!Read More...

hi bueno, just wondering how you're doing? only if you want to share, we're here if you do. hope you're with friends/ family at this time of the year and that brings some comfort for you. will you continue to see this other T for longer? puppetRead More...

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I saw this on Facebook but I didn't stop and watch it until you posted it, Chezza. I really like this video for a lot of reasons. I like how it separates the person from the depression. I like this technique a lot because most of the time we think we are the problem and this makes it really clear in a visual way that depression is the problem. I also like how it plays with the idea that you can have a relationship with your depression. You interact with it and you can change the form your...Read More...

I actually saw a T once where he would take on one charity client at a time. I was charged the usual rate but the whole fee went to the charity of my choice, not his. He had some charities he supported and said I could either choose those or my own. Oh, and I have totally been there with the creative ways my brain re-interprets completely innocuous statements; not just from Ts but from partners and family members too.Read More...

((((lost)))) I'm so sorry for your deep pain I wonder if there is anyone you know or could meet through a shared interest, who might be good to spend time with, outside of family? Over the years I've had to 'make my own' family from friends and others who have no family of their own. Since then we've become closer than blood relatives. Sending support and hugsRead More...

(((fmw))) sorry late to this, but wanted to say congrats!!! That sounds wonderful!!Read More...

(((YAKUSOKU)) Thanks a bunch for your kind feedback, I really do appreciate it.Read More...

Random? Maybe. Meaningful? Definitely. Well-written? Totally. Motivating? Surprisingly. Inspiring? Absolutely. Happy Thanksgiving to you, to TAS!Read More...

Thank you Draggers for your honesty, I really needed to hear it. I am afraid that by going it may change how I feel about her for the worse, because as you say, it might not be as nurturing like when you were a client. It sounds the dynamics do change and I think it is good to be aware of it. I too, know that she will be carried with me. It is bittersweet isn't it? to know how great it felt but now it has changed. I think I just have to be aware of my expectations, so then, I may not be...Read More...

Thanks Jillann. Sorry I was deleting while you posted-- an overlap. I will keep the pieces and do something with them, but it's still broken. . . The hug helped, thanks.Read More...

wanted to thank all of you so much for support. I think I have ended my time off and will be back around more. I feel that even though I trigger myself at times about T's, I miss you all too much to stay away long. You each mean a lot to meRead More...

((((cat)))) sending big hugs and support your wayRead More...

((((draggers)))) i hope things turn around for you soon, as i believe you deserve that. you are in my thoughts and prayers, and i'm sending you every good vibe i possibly can, because you deserve it. do bad things happen for a reason? i don't know. but from what i know of you, you have defied all odds and have turned into a wonderfully compassionate and caring individual, and it really comes through in your posts. as far as i'm concerned, you are a God-send and a wonderful example of how to...Read More...

Yeah, I asked. We were talking about personality typing systems one time. . . she brought it up. She asked if I knew what my enneagram type was, and I said no, but that I used to be very into the MBTI and asked if she was familiar with it. She was so I asked about her type. I wouldn't have pegged her correctly if I had guessed-- I was thinking INFJ. However, I asked her to guess my type and she got it right. A good thing I suppose, since she's the T and I'm the client.Read More...