One thing I know for sure is no one here knows what Tas's therapist is thinking or what his intentions are. When I started seeing my T she said she wanted to see me twice a week. Then as it turns out we only sometimes see each other twice a week because she is getting more busy etc. It is hard for me but of course I had to accept it or leave. I have so far accepted it. The T I had before this T called me every single day and talked to me. She did this even if I did not call her or email her.Read More...

Turtle, I can assure you that you had NOTHING to do with any friction on this Board. Hugs TNRead More...

(((Poppy))) Thanks for the support. Things were much simpler (though too expensive) before I knew we had insurance. (((Irish))) This is actually already the state appeal. The state still has to reply to the insurance company, company but I don't think they can override it in this case, as it's not an issue of complete denial but a rate dispute. I think they are basically allowed to lie to us, because the federal law (ERISA) supersedes state law (which includes bad faith, according to the...Read More...

SomeDays I wish I could see it as positively as you. I know it's not the Therapists doing...but I still am pissed off over the the fact I have to go... Thank you T.Read More...

(((AG))) you've done what you can as far as reaching out, and perhaps even went over-and-above given the circumstances. i imagine none of it was easy, but you did it anyway. so kuddos to you! i am so sorry that she has been unresponsive. that must hurt alot (((AG))). she's your momma, and you're right ... you SHOULD be more more important to her than the way she's treating you. but as you know, that is her stuff. she's never dealt with it and so you suffer the brunt of it and it feels like...Read More...

Searching on love, trying to learn why I feel so the way I do, and this stood out to me. Makes a lot of sense, I just hadn't thought about it this way before. Thanks for this, and thanks for this post....Read More...

Cat, I've never discussed the idea that I would leave messages just because I want to. I usually call because I want to talk to him. I email thoughts when I just want to get them out of my head. I think my T is trying to get me to talk about my fear of his judgement while I'm in the session instead of leaving the session and emailing or calling out of fear. I haven't tried to discuss what being cared for feels like. Monte, it is nice to hear from you and I'm so sorry that my feelings...Read More...

I like the idea of an enclave. It sounds enclosed, safe and protected. But the title just doesn't jive. How about the situation nation? Or the situation territory? I really like the situation nation but .... the word nation connotes something a little different than a small protected space. I guess it could be a large protected space. Okay, obviously, I'm avoiding real life again.Read More...

((((CAT))) Oh yeah, you are such an old hag. Like a dried up prune. I'm going to tell you what my T says to me when I make similar statements: never say never.Read More...

Thank you for understanding, Poppet. TN, I can see why you have to work so hard to get over what was done to you. I am disgusted at the profession for what oT did to you. He is such a jerk! At least my oT is able to offer a polite greeting. The first time I ran into her was about six months after she terminated me and she said hello, but I quickly told her not to talk to me! At the time, I felt proud for sticking up for myself but it didn't take long to regret that decision. When I ran into...Read More...

I am relieved to know I am not the only one this happens to. I will bring it up at our next session but I realize this is a pattern of mine. I let other people run over me with their agenda's. I minimize the importance of what I have to say. I had wanted to talk about a breakthrough I had with a younger part and when T ignored her I got angry. If what she has to say isn't important then how she feels is even less important! I was mad at T but I was also mad at the the little girl for feeling...Read More...

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P.S. Thanks you two for helping me process.Read More...

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((kash)) don't be silly your support is a meaningful and wonderful offer in itself. ((AG)) Brief update on me. For anyone who read over in the coffee chat thread, I had a major meltdown on Friday because my mother in law cancelled her babysitting commitment for Monday morning with me which means I'm missing an important class. I can live with missing the class but I lost the plot over feeling soooooooooo let down and unimportant and that my needs were not being considered at all. I was so...Read More...

Great advice Liese. Yes it reminded me of me.... It also reminded me of the contact changing over time. Me too - used to go weekly and then as the relationship developed as the healthy dependency increased - I needed more and more. each time it was a negotiation process / rupture but we worked it out together. I think you have to fully commit for six months and there is no talk or thinking of termination within that time and really make a go of the relationship. SDRead More...

Hey Harbour... how are you doing? You haven't been around and I was just checking in on you. TNRead More...

RT, i oftentimes have thought that the jason mraz song was the perfect therapy song. makes my heart all warm and cozyRead More...

I don't think the actual therapist does much of anything at all. They provide a space that one rents.Read More...

Thanks for all of the wonderful support! I will let you all know how the conference went when get back! Take Care!Read More...

hi TAS, i used to struggle more with that as well, but i think what helped lately was that i have hope that i might be able to see my T twice a week sometime in the future. there are things preventing it at the moment and i dont know if it will really happen or when, but having hope helped. she also has been ok with me emailing her so i suppose knowing that helps a bit, although i hate doing it (hate myself when i do it as i feel weak, but it does make another part of me happy/ in less...Read More...

Hi IrishGirl, Thanks for responding and sharing your experiences. Currently taking Lexapro and Welbutrin...I'm not sure how things are working with each one lately and what they're helping with so either it's subtle or else I've forgotten how I used to feel. The T that gave me the diagnosis today is going to consult with the P who prescribes for me to change my meds at my next scheduled P appt. so I probably won't know if there's a difference until I change. He will likely suggest to drop...Read More...

Sometimes, I wonder if I should just quit therapy and go back to living my life! Looking for a new T is creating a lot more havoc than I anticipated. I met with one potential so far but she is not a good fit. I could have saved myself time and money if I had know anything about her before we met. On the other hand, I have to say that I learned something about myself and what I am looking for as a result of my session so maybe it wasn't a total waste. She recommended the name of a male T in...Read More...

My t gives me his notes from our last session when I arrive at my next session. Sometimes We read them, sometimes I don't read them until afterwards. It helps me to understand what his impressions are, what the plan of treatment is, diagnosis, etc. My t is unique, there is only one other patient that he gives them to. I appreciate him doing so.Read More...