Cat, I was just thinking the other day, I haven't seen a post from you in ages. Good to see you back and sorry for all the trouble you are going through. Please hang in there and take care.Read More...

(((((Liese))))) I am sorry that you go through such difficulties too, but reading more on what you said i understand that you come out of it in a good way and that is lovely!! This does give me some inspiration and makes it easier for me I don't have a T but i think i can handle myself for now and get a grip on things This forum is so very helpful for that!!Read More...

Hi COGS, That's an interesting explanation he gave you. I've had a similar experience lately. I used to have to check in often to make sure he wasn't sick of me. I think I've gotten to the point where I really trust that he's not sick of me and we talk more about the stuff that is happening in my life as opposed to my relationship with him. Funny that you say that it feels like something is missing because I did feel like that for a while and still do to some extent. It's like, for me, all...Read More...

Thanks Meta, and LOL, Starry. That is a funny story AND it made me feel betterRead More...

I am starting to feel things... Anxiety and stress mostly, but some happiness too. Even if they are hard things to feel, gosh anything is better than numb. ((((Anthenacus))) (((everybody))) Thanks for being with me through it. All T did was play Chutes and Ladders with Boo and give me a safe place to sit and interact with them, but I guess just having a safe place to go and making it through the day and getting some stuff done was enough to unlock things a little bit. At least if I can feel,...Read More...

Hi TN and others, Thank you for your responses and for checking on me! On Christmas Eve I ended up coming down with a bad cold, so I know that was part of my bad mood the day before. I just didn't know it at the time. My holiday break was full of trying to survive a virus, a break up, and being lonely on New Year's Eve and New Year's Day. I cried for several days, stayed in the house, cleaned, talked, and sang to three cats (I'm cat sitting). A few days ago I just decided that I had enough...Read More...

Oh, did a quick search on attachment styles and psychosis and it appears that it's not what I was thinking. It sounds like they are thinking that there is a relationship between psychosis and an insecure attachment style, particularly a dismissive style. I don't know why that style in particular. ???Read More...

Thanks you guys! It's been a difficult year.Read More...

I understand what you're feeling because I also sent a letter to my exP about 6 months after termination. It was a card I picked up while on a vacation and I only wrote a very brief, happy message, letting him know I was doing well. When I sent it, I felt like I just wanted to share this information with him, but as time passed and I got no response, it really began to bother me. I would ask myself over and over, just how much effort would a response require, especially when he had promised...Read More...

Oh Katiedid, that is so beautiful and very a propo.Read More...

Hi Frye! I think there are other topics on this subject, if you use the search feature. From what I understand, prolonged exposure is effective if you can finish the course of treatment, however it is often not well tolerated. In other words, many people being treated with prolonged exposure end treatment before it's complete because the process is too uncomfortable. Some of the newer trauma therapies (EMDR, somatic experiencing, etc.) seem to be better tolerated and equally effective. In...Read More...

Thank you everyone for the kind replies. I don't want it to seem like everything is peachy now. But I do feel I've grown A LOT. And yeah, I'm really proud of the relationship T and I have built through lots of effort on both sides.Read More...

((((TN)))) How are you doing?Read More...

My abrupt and unexpected term from T 1.5 years ago causes me problems in my therapy life constantly. This quote above really reminded me of it. It has stunted my progress, attachment, relationship, trust - everything with my new T - everything I do is based on fear that I am going to do the wrong thing, say the wrong thing and that my T will terminate me too. Fear is the basis of everything. And just when I have been on a good path with it, something will come up that will trigger a relapse...Read More...

((( BLT ))) and ((( TN ))) thank you both for your insight! this has given me alot to think about and even hope about. i read both of your replies days ago and wanted to respond then, but things get busy. indeed, things still are busy, but i really wanted you both to know that i read what you wrote and it has helped me alot come to terms with the feelings of betrayal in therapy. thank you both for your wisdomRead More...

Hi stillhealing, I saw a consult T after two years with my T. I had several months of difficulty with my relationship with him and went back and forth quite a bit in my mind. Like you, I also talked to him about the problems I was having with my therapy with him. When I first made the appointment with the consult, I was very upfront about it, and I told my T I was going before I went. However, I did end up telling him this in a phone message, which was not ideal, but it was how it worked out...Read More...

BLT You make a very good point. I love the Marsha Linehan story. The answer is probably a very individual thing. I don't have a choice in my case so hopefully I'll come to appreciate the positive aspects you talked about. Or not, right? Who says you have to cry in therapy? Sorry for the hijack Lucina ...Read More...

Thanks ninna, I'm also a child of divorced paren ts and I didn't have a choice, I rarely saw my dad. I think the kids should have some say, and I think you're right, I think my son just needs his dad right now, I'm sure it will change through the years.Read More...

TN, I know you are right. I think if I were able to allow myself to attach to my T I would believe I could fully heal but the thought of that stirs up too much shame. I was with my former T for almost five years before she terminated me and although I was unconsciously attached, I felt way too much shame to allow myself to feel attached to her. Does that make sense? This inability was part of the reason therapy failed with her. Like you, that termination really set me back. I am still...Read More...

Hi Non, So good to hear from you and your news, I am really pleased that has worked out for you. Sorry that you feel you have to shut away right now, you must do whatever you need to in order to feel safe, but know we are always here for you when you can pop back starfishyRead More...

Thanks everyone....still feeling ok for the moment, so riding the wave as they say!Read More...

(((TAS))) i'm sorry you are feeling so low and hopeless, i know the feeling... and sometimes its nice just to hear someone tell us it will all be ok, even if we don't really believe it, but it gives us hope. i am really sorry that i can't say that to you (because i am feeling pretty hopeless too...) i'm sorry if the only positive thing i can tell you is that i hear you and that you deserve positive words and hope. puppetRead More...

(((COGS))) Sometimes I find talking about it helps even if nothing can be done about it. Good luck.Read More...

Friends! I have been sooooo sick. Boo! Just now catching up on this whole thread CTL - Thank you and no worries. I just wasn't sure so I started a new one just in case Liese - No paranoid thoughts at all It's actually something that has been on my mind since it happened. And although I know it's not exactly the same type of thing that you were talking about, I felt like it sort of related. I know for sure without a doubt that my T cared about me. I think though, in just that one instance,...Read More...

Also wanted to say I like how you phrased that and agree that it is probably an essential place to get to before The End. If we haven't learned to differentiate, departure could be felt as terrifying but we know from countless examples that it doesn't have to be that way. Good thoughts, if a bit sobering. I hadn't really considered that aspect of separation/detachment before.Read More...