Hi AG, I'm not an expert at weight loss by any stretch of the imagination. And not that you've asked for my weight loss tips but I'm going to be presumptuous here and tell you what has been working for me as far as changing my habits are concerned. - I decided not to do any kind of program because I wanted to be able to eat "normal" food and to be able to assimilate my new habits into a "normal" lifestyle. - I had to admit that I love food. I love to eat. I needed to make things that tasted...Read More...

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Thinking of you (((LG))) and hoping things are improving for you!Read More...

and i think what you have "disclosed" is very insightful and helpful, to me. i can see where it would be TMI to others. it helps me to be more empathetic to the T ... i KNOW it's about me, but really it's about us learning/re-learning about relationships, and relationships are always 2-sided. just my thoughts. thanks for sharing!Read More...

(((Navyme))) Thanks for posting this. It was interesting to read and I think it's awesome that you've had all these insights. I could see a lot of my own experience in what you wrote, especially here: Wow, I do this all the time. Especially with poor T. I compulsively ask her if she's mad at me, to try and touch base with the reality when I get like this. I'm impressed that she's as patient with it as she is.Read More...

(((STRM))) Thanks for sharing your story. I wish H didn't pressure me to apply. I know I can't really work right now, but I don't feel I "deserve" help either. It feels like because I could just dissociate (was SU from another part today and did so in order to do dishes and laundry and stuff with Boo--I'm paying for it already, but whatever), I should just do that. It feels like because I could choose not to do this whole feeling, healing, connecting with myself thing and quit therapy and...Read More...

Ok, so I set up my skype and tested it a few times and finally T and I got on. she had to set up an account. It was funny when it finally came online as we were both on the phone to each other talking about it when it came on we looked at each other and a laughed as we were talking on the phone and on camera. Felt a bit silly. Ok, so we did it. She was not looking at my face (good) and I was prob definitely not looking at her. It was a practice session so there wasn't much therapy stuff -...Read More...

Thanks (((HeartAndSoul!))) It wasn't an easy 4 months, especially since my NT is the only person in my world that gives me much-needed hugs, but I made it! I think T was just as relieved that NT is back as I was! You'll make it - just take it one day at a time! (oh, and I wrote a lot of never-sent letters to NT while she was away, it helped!) Thanks (((CD))) I am enjoying the warm fuzzies while they last, which is never long enough!Read More...

I think leaving her a VM would be fine assuming she knows you look at her FB page. My T broke her wrist not too long ago and I gave her a CastCover which she really liked. I bet yours would like something similar if you wanted to do something nice for her. Glad to hear your session went so well as that will help sustain you during your month long hiatus. Best of luck.Read More...

I started going to therapy ten months ago due to something very traumatic (a betrayal) that happened in one of my closest relationships. To put it mildly, a switch was flipped inside of me, causing me to become trapped in the trauma of my childhood. For years, I am 39, I had prided myself on not letting the first 16 horrible years of my life touch my husband or children. It seemed when the switch was flipped, I no longer had control over all the emotions, trauma, and I felt like I was headed...Read More...

Hi cogs, I'm so sorry that things have snowballed since that painful encounter with your mother. It seems like your T is really there for you and supporting you now, and I'm glad for that. I hope you can keep leaning on him. It took me a while to even realize the difference between my black and white mindset and whatever it is that I've somewhat moved on to. I don't even really know how to explain the difference yet, in terms of relationships, but I know that there is a difference in my...Read More...

((starry)) ((cogs)) ((SD)) Thanks. I'm back to sorta the land of the living. I was dissociated out of my mind. I hate leaving sessions like how I did so triggered, so not contained. When I talked to T today she said she was okay with the time, she knew I was in a bad spot, and she was okay that I couldn't touch her she said that she figured if I did I'd just end up sobbing on her LOL. We're going to do some stuff on Wednesday to make sure I won't get triggered. In the meantime... I've been...Read More...

Well, I tend to agree with the article that the creator of this thread posted. I do find therapy to do more harm than good, but I'm sure there are others out there who disagree and have had a different experience.Read More...

I think its okay to love and can even feel good to do so. The danger is when we don't get the love back, and in my opinion, I really don't see how therapy is healing in this regard. Tread safely.Read More...

Sounds like a really symbolic dream of your current fears, discoveringme. I encourage you to talk about this with your T if you haven't already. It does help a bit. The fears seem to always be there though, and it's just indicative of how important they are to us. I'm sorry you had such a terrifying dream.Read More...

Thank you AG and HeldinCompassion for your responses. I can't write any more at the moment, but I wanted to let you know that I love my T classes so far! I actually got to pretend to be a T and a client in a practice T room. That was sooo hard!! I don't know how T's make it seem so seamless and normal. It was very awkward to be a pretend T. The client part was easier, of course. I'll write more at another time. Thanks for reading my ramblings.Read More...

I was about to write out my experience of this and read R2G's account above and I could have written it word-for-word. I did everything she said!!!!! It takes time, it takes ruptures, it takes a truck load of heartache, pain and misery. It is a gradual process (for me) and by my T being consistent and giving me what i needed - i now feel attached. Talking through that pain has and still is very painful. Me telling her that I needed her - just about killed me. But now I can say it to her face...Read More...

((((NAVYME)))) What a great email! And yeah, I agree, about needing people. I think it's great that you recognize how vulnerable it feels to put something out there and not get a response. I do that and then realize after the fact that maybe I shouldn't have done that. It's taken me a long time to get a handle on it. The email thing is hard because I think I'd be tempted to say things in email that are harder to say in person. Good luck with the promotion. I hope it comes through. And good...Read More...

I personally would loath sessions with anyone continually adjusting himself be it shoe salesman, hairdresser...or therapist. Likewise a therapist who told me that he thinks about me when we're apart would be over the line. I think it commendable that you are clear that there are certain lines therapy should not cross. Sorry that you have to deal with a professional,who should know better,disregarding basic civil behavior.Read More...

(((ANNA)))) Hope you are doing okay. I was just wondering if you could just ask your T if he is committed to helping you. And that it would give you tremendous peace of mind knowing he is and that you can be yourself without living in fear that he is going to terminate you. He does sound like he cares about you. LieseRead More...

Ang, thanks for your reply . I can manage 1x/week sessions, just not two.Read More...

Ang, I worry a lot that my T is going to get frustrated that I'm stuck. But they do say that if we're stuck, it has something to do with the dynamic rather than that it's just our fault. I try to remind myself, not always successfully, that the therapy is for me and I am the one who should be judging the therapy and if it's working for me and if I'm getting out of it what I want to get out of it. That doesn't always works but helps sometimes. And then other times I just tell myself that I'm...Read More...

TN, Sorry I'm new, so you have probably seen your T by now I hope. Vacations are so hard and I am grateful that many Ts like mine and yours are often only gone a few days up to a week. How did you cope? it is harder at the regular session time I agree! I don't know if you saw my post on attachment but would be interested in your take since you also have a male T.Read More...

I always think letting someone know, young or not, ahead of time is beneficial. At least in my case I feel it is. Yaku one of the main differences between you anre your daughter are that she has someone. It makes sense you're going to think a lot of things about what she feels - and it's your job to be attuned there - but really she'll feel how she feels and what makes the biggest difference in her life is having support, having a "good enough" someone to be there with her through whatever...Read More...