Antoni, I like blunt people, much easier to know where you stand. AGRead More...

JM, I really believe that's true. After my T's last vacation we spent two sessions processing it. The first was me being able to talk about my feelings of abandonment and the fear that he wouldn't come back and my second one talking about how angry I was with him that he left me and how much I hated not being a part of his "real" life. He was totally open and accepting of my feelings, didn't get at all defensive and really understood why I felt the way I did. It really was amazing. And I...Read More...

thanks ya... i thought the quote fit me well.. i think i know the source but not sure..... I believe the ending was made up by a therapist I worked around in college lol....Read More...

Awww Samy Safe hugs if you like! That's GREAT that you all called SPCA to see if something could be done. Some people would just leave the ailing feline there. There isn't anything we can do about these things sometimes but you all did what you could. How's your kitty doing?Read More...

nice to see you back here Shrinklady ;P ScottRead More...

Thanks JM, I appreciate your generosity in being happy for me when you're missing your T so much! I can't begin to describe how it felt to hear him say that stuff. I'm glad I called too. And that I'm not quitting. (And yes, I'm starting to notice a pattern in my responses. ) And I love that you get the exhaustion, so many people don't understand the kind of energy you use dealing with this stuff. AGRead More...

Hi Charlotte, Thanks for the positive words of encouragement. This is definitely the hardest time in my life in a very long time, but I know that somehow it will work out a lot of necessary things from my past and I will be much better off for having worked through these emotions, no matter how deep and menacing they are. I am sorry to hear that you have to go into the hospital. I can imagine all these tests and trying to find exactly what is going on with you feels endless and exhausting.Read More...

Hi Robin/Scott, I'm sorry, that can be really scary and I'll agree with JM, shocking. You just don't expect that kind of health problem in someone so young. I hope she has a quick recovery. AGRead More...

LOL! That is too awesome! I want one. Man did I need to see that ths morning. I truly need to be sedated, not only am I in my 24 hour phase, but it is made worse by the fact that I won't see my T for another 3 weeks. It really hit me very hard this morning. Let's just say I literally woke up crying at 5:00 AM. The t-shirt made me laugh and smile and I would have thought that not possible today. I am so glad that is the first post I checked. JMRead More...

** gives Dude et al another big container for the things that runneth over and yes you all CAN do it.. just keep remembering to take care of yourselves and keep on trucking along....Read More...

Hi Just Me! Honing is fine, I like honing, especially when it comes with a LARGE dollop of reassurance! I do feel ok and accepted here and actually have found the site to be a real encouragement and support for my healing, but man, on those bad days it can all come crashing down. So thank you for all the kind words. When I'm feeling that way again, I'll come back and read this so there's something to hang onto. I'm also really relating to Robin! We're heading for a full release on our...Read More...

Hi Unknown, You have quite a story. If you are telling it to us now I hope this means that you may be ready to "turn a new leaf" so to speak. It has been my experience that no matter how hard I try I can't make any really healthy lasting changes in my life through sheer willpower. I have learned however, it can be done though through a trusting relationship with someone who can step by baby step help me learn a new way to be and change my self-destructive patterns of thinking and acting.Read More...

It was nice to hear from you AG, although I am sorry to know that you are having a hard time too. I certainly get that hard to focus feeling. I wonder if there is something in the air. I don’t think you’re whiney, you’re just reaching out and that is ok. Keep us posted, especially on how your session goes tomorrow. JM (Holding safety net at bottom of cliff)Read More...

Sounds like fun Samy. It's been a while since I've really let go and enjoyed myself to that degree.Read More...

Samy, That is SO awesome, you should be really proud of yourself. And staying close to someone you're mad at sounds like REALLY hard work to me. And you're learning to express your emotions better without acting out by swearing or hitting. And please don't feel like crying is anything to be ashamed about, I actually think my T should charge me extra based on all the tissues I go through in his office! I love that your T sounds like she really understands what its like for you, keep up the...Read More...

Thank you so much for all your replies and welcome. I spoke last night to a friend of mine who has kids the same age and told her about the incident with my daughter not about how my therapist reacted. My daughter (she's 8)told me when she looks in the mirror everything about her is wrong then I tried to convince her 1st she was beautiful and then people don't like you based just on your looks. My friend said that's tough but I'm sure you know everyone feels that way sometimes and all you...Read More...

Everything will be ok in the end. If it's not ok, it's not the end. -Anonymous this is a super quote! Can i scrap it? (that's lingo for 'make a scrapbook page with it') RobinRead More...

Hi AG, You don’t have to accept those words at all. Please don’t feel that if I didn’t nail it that there is anything wrong with confronting that fact. That is yours to accept or not accept, and I realized I was taking a risk when I posted “my own” observations. But I trusted it was ok, and you would let me know if it wasn’t. At least I think I can state with confidence that I am spinning in the similar place with my own grief of never having my emotional needs met either. My safety and well...Read More...

Hello Rae; My heart goes out to you at this time of grief and remembrance. I am glad you find some solace in remembering him for what he meant to you and not for his infliction alone. In your memory he will always be your rock. You can always hold on to the good times you had. They are yours to treasure forever! Hang in there! JMRead More...

Thanks. Your support means a lot to me. ScottRead More...

Scott, You have my sympathy, we took care of my mother-in-law the last five years of her life (a labor of joy, she was a really wonderful woman) and although we did so happily, having to juggle kids, a job and taking care of an adult can get pretty interesting sometimes. And I'm really impressed because you're going to school on top of it! Sorry to hear Samy is having such a rough time, she's such a great kid. AGRead More...

hello = well looks like the transference posts are real good right now!! And it is normal part of therapy when you trust your therapist too i think in one way or another..... good fortuneRead More...

oh, by the way, we call her 'host'... that is, the main person/body owner... as she doesn't want her 'real name' on here. and 'we' will meet Shrinklady but probably not me, I'm not 'big' on meeting people irl. AntoniRead More...