Dragonfly - Yes, thank you. And by the way, thank you very much for your explanation too. I actually do get it now lol. And I really like what I read about "Unconditional Positive Regard"...Im going to practice that with my kids instead of losing my patience!Read More...

Kashley, Thank you for the tips! I will have to give some of that a try. I do the same thing about picturing my notes on the page or picturing where it said such and such in a book in order to get the answer. One of my problems was I was trying to picture the notes and all I could picture was the heading and nothing below (blank page in my head). I panicked and wrote only a paragraph instead of an essay because nothing was coming to my head. Also, the mult. choice questions seemed like a...Read More...

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Well starlight sounds like it all worked out in the end. Its great when you can get the words out to express fear about yout T taking off someday and once the matter has been talked about their is nearley always a nice ray off light comming from the result. NDRead More...

I'm comfortable with T, but not with some of or topics, so for me it just depends on what we're discussing. I'm more comfortable discussing things where I don't fear judgement. As compassionate as he normally is, I once started telling him the story I just posted in Intimate issues, and I immediately felt judged by something he said. I'm sure he didn't mean it as it came out, but I think he let his T-persona down for a minute and I wish he hadn't. So in general, it depends on the session,...Read More...

Nigeldaniel... So glad you got together with your old T. Isn't it funny how things happen to kind of tell us what we need to do? Frog...I just felt like dying when I saw him...I was thinking, "This CAN NOT be happening!" If I had thought he hadn't knew I had seen him...I would have got out of there as fast as I could. Seeing that he was sitting by the entrance and only one way out...I would have had to walk right by him...ugh. j Thanks for your replies, each of you. I appreciate it! T.Read More...

Thank you so much to everyone for your responses. (((Somedays))) - Thank you. For making me feel less alone (((Closed Doors))) - Oh man...you explained exactly what I have been feeling. I couldn't have said it better. It's awful! My T said last session that she doesn't ever want me to feel like she let me down. And that she is there for as long as I need her, but that one day I won't need her as much but that is up to me...I let her know when that time comes. I was thinking in my head...Read More...

Ha ha - my avatar has three bits of fruit - three times the trouble. My T would probably agree....... TAS - I think the bottom line is - to do the type of work you need to do in therapy - you HAVE to attach. I don't know how to get to the other side without attaching. IF all your energy is going against it and resisting - then in the end it will take much longer and be more painful. I think. Somedays - 3 fruits.Read More...

I've been going for 17 months, except for two while my T was hospitalized.... Started going bc of self-destructive behaviors mainly evident in binge-eating, but some other things as well. Also have what T described as PTSD that is manifest in arachniphobia. (being "surprised" by a spider, esp a dark one, triggers anxiety and brings back certain memories.) Have learned and am still learning about those things and so much more... Hugs to all, StarryRead More...

Hi True North Thank you for your kind words... The Therapist said that he felt that my texting him was not helping me with impulsivity/or with self soothing. I understand to a degree but I was really struggling with attachment and it seems when I walk out the door...he does not exist. Now, I know that I can't fault him for that...my attachment issues are not his doing. I did ask him after the session if I could still touch base with him Tues and Thur...he did say yes...but I have tried to...Read More...

Hopeful, yeh I get that!!Read More...

Jones, That was great! Really picked up my mood.Read More...

TAS, The same could be said for me. I know I'm withdrawn and not always emotionally present with my kids. If the remark was intended to make you feel like crap, then ??? what kind of therapy is that? If it was intended to perhaps motivate you, well, then, maybe I can forgive it but it was still a crappy thing to say. I'd feel awful if my T said something like that to me.Read More...

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(((( SD )))) I can very much relate to what you’re describing, and it makes total sense that such a situation would completely freak you out, given what happened with previous T. Can I say though that Ts generally ought to be in supervision as a matter of course. I think it could be different elsewhere, but in UK that’s standard and I believe a condition of acceptance on some of the official therapist registers. As such, a T seeking supervision oughtn’t be a threat to the therapy itself...Read More...

Somedays, that was beautifully explained - it makes so much sense to me. What bothers me is that when a client already knows that this is the kind of contact they need and openly asks the T, T's seem to see it as manipulative and not to be taken seriously but to be thwarted instead. A kind of Murphy's Law in therapy I'm so glad your T is working with you on this and not attempting to push you to be more 'independent'. TAS I see no reason whatsoever for your T to withdraw 'touching base'...Read More...

so true Ang T.Read More...

Taking down again. I do not want my T to find and read here...although she probably doesn't have the time I would need to say things to her so this makes me uncomfortable.Read More...

Good thread! Never liked Jose but like B&J's Went to the factory too. I'm in Jersey and absolutely love Vermont! Haven't been there in the last 4 years but used to go every year. I have a brother in California. (good place for him!) The weather is nice though. Apple Crisp?!!! Love it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!Read More...

Thank you Lamplighter! I hope it goes well. Thank you for your encouragement T.Read More...

Interesting idea BLT, cause it sure was exposure - four hours straight of exposure! All I know is I'm exhausted cause of the extended state of heightened anxiety. I wish tomorrow was sunday, I need one more day of the weekend to recover from today!Read More...

Oh, the ukelele version is a beauty.Read More...

As the Moderator of this forum, I am taking the step to close this thread. There are a number of reasons why I am taking this step. First, because I feel that the original question posed by Lamplighter was answered. Lampers... if you have any other related questions, please PM me and I will be happy to answer them. Next, I can see that where the topic is going is potentially not healthy and safe for ANY member here and could trigger in all kinds of ways and/or cause hurt feelings. Lastly, it...Read More...

((((((DGUOM)))))) Just checking in.Read More...

TAS... I really like your T. He is doing it so right and you are also doing what you are supposed to do (even if it is unpleasant now). My T teases me that we are nicely attached... despite all my kicking and screaming. He's right, darn him! You need someone in your life to be steady and consistent. And of course this will make you feel very uncomfortable. He is not behaving the way you expect him to behave, the way the abusive people in your life have behaved towards you. He is there for...Read More...