I think you should discuss your expectations with him in person i.e. checking weekend messages. If you want him to text you on a certain day/time because its really important to you you should probably also have asked him and pre arranged it in person not on his voicemail.Read More...

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kashley, I agree with all that has been said. This past August I had that kind of overwhelming grief and could barely cope with anything. I had to start teaching again after the summer off, and I was a mess. I honestly almost quit and walked out every day for a month. My grandma had died in May. She was the only one who I knew my existence mattered to. Because it was summer, I had camping and road trips to "keep me busy". When summer was over, all the grief of my grandma's death and all the...Read More...

All good, FMN! Just want to make sure that you are understood. That is a huge thing! Let us know how it goes!Read More...

What a good question, Jenny. With my present therapist I was really upset that I had got a letter saying I an assessment appointment with him (he is a clinical psychologist and I did not know WHO had referred me. It turned out that I had requested it through my doctor four months earlier and had forgotten all about it.) I was on the defensive and I power dressed. I felt scared stiff. I remember thinking "I am prepared to talk about PTSD and see if he has anything interesting to add. Then I...Read More...

My cannot use touch with me since we like thousands of miles apart. But she does tell me she would like to give me a hug if we were in person and that she is sending me hugs in spirit. She also will try to get me to make eye contact. She will offer kind things to say..things like how much she cares about me, that she is so fond of me, that she enjoys working with me, that it is so rewarding to work with me, etc. I usually look down and don't say much and she will then ask me what I am doing...Read More...

I used to find it excrutiating to admit that I missed him. But now I say all the time things like "Oh it was so bad trying to sleep last night as I was missing you so much." or "I just ached to see you, I wanted to hear your voice and see you .". "I find the gap between seeing you too long. It hurts in my heart." "I ache in my heart when I don't see you." and I admit to him how little those feelings feel, like I am a very small child. I have also told him that sometimes I have to imagine...Read More...

number 9 - I did not dare to talk about this. I was - to be honest - rather preoccupied with other topics during my session and just could not find a moment where it would not seem a strange diversion. I shall ask him over the phone. It is easier.Read More...

I bought a book about therapy not working: Shouldn't I Be Feeling Better by Now Clients Views of Therapy edited by Yvonee Bates I had two therapists seriously damage me so I was interested in the real life stories in this book.Read More...

Hi HIC, I attended the church my first T went to, because I was trying them out, and she said she didn't mind. I found it was not quite my sort of church and eventually started attending another. I actually quite liked seeing her at the church - she often played the organ - but I think I felt quite secure around her and knew that I could see her during the week and so it was not an issue in choosing a church. I think it is sound that you go and check that church out and also see how you feel...Read More...

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And another thing....the last session, when I found a babysitter to watch my son and went alone, I could tell she was annoyed that I didn't bring him. She was very direct with me, maybe because she was mad at me. BUT strangely enough, I felt better that she said a few things about my complaining about my parents. Basically, that complaining doesn't help. That was good. That happened when I was ALONE with her. What was bad was that she didn't respect the fact that I am uncomfortable bringing...Read More...

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Argh!!! This is why I hate therapy!! So I emailed her today to apologise and say that if she can't change the time, that's fine and I'll assume it's still at the time we agreed and she replies STRAIGHT AWAY to say let's meet at the time agreed and "see if we can sort all this out". It's only this week that I've double booked myself and the other thing I booked weeks ago so should really take precedence but that isn't really the done thing in therapy is it? Anyway, I've reacted by going into...Read More...

I've always been a big kid and a very playful adult so in a way it felt natural. But I'm not big on sharing or being vulnerable and being in a room talking about my "feelings" and my T saying the things Ts do felt profoundly ridiculous but I'm used to it nowRead More...

Thanks for your share and insight. Actually I would like to thank all those who replied. THANK YOU VERY MUCH.Read More...

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Thanks for your input! I guess maybe the reason I still do miss old T a lot at times is because I wasn't my choice to leave her. I was in a program where the government paid for my counseling but it only lasted until I turned 18. Even then, I had to leave her a month before I actually turned 18 cos old T had quit working there and was in her own practice. I wanted to continue with her, but we just couldn't afford it. I feel like I have invested a lot in new T which is why I'm confused as to...Read More...

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Thanks everyone for your replies It's an interesting dichotomy. I totally get the disconnect that can occur between intellectualizing and experiencing. On the other hand, I almost feel like I'm playing dumb sometimes as I listen to her talk around something, and all the while I'm thinking "oh she means, 'enactment'". For example. LOL. It feels like I am not being completely honest, which I suppose is no big surprise. Months on, I still struggle with opening up completely. But I do like...Read More...

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