Hopeful: Exactly! I do the same thing. Right now, just wanting to talk about all this stuff feels shameful. I use humor a lot. I want to dx myself with OPD. (Obnoxious Personality Disorder) And hide. Echoes: That is so encouraging to hear! I was at the edge of looking at the whole shame thing, my T brought me there, and then decided that he could not/would not guide me through it. I think that we found some limitations in terms of boundaries and his abilities. It has been hard. But it can be...Read More...

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((((Cipher)))) Thank you!! I am so glad you are taking what I'm saying as supportive of you, because that's exactly my intention. So, I hope you don't mind if I get up on my soapbox, in response to what you said your T would say. This is something I feel extremely passionate about. And as your T would probably point out, I am not a T. But I AM a parent, so I've experienced attachment needs from that viewpoint. And I also experienced them as a child and know how that went for me. So here is...Read More...

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I liked Ativan. I only had it while I was off any other meds because I had it "left over" from when I had gone inpatient. My psychiatrist would not prescribe it for me. I had gone off all my AD's cold turkey this past June and just had the Ativan when my anxiety came back in October (when my separation happened). So....when I ran out of Ativan....I ran out of options....and unfortunately for me, when I made that first visit back to the doc (a new one thankfully!) I couldn't "cover up" all...Read More...

Well yeah, clearly, because my actions dictate what they dictated to me. Lol. I think she was just making me aware as to how I felt dictated by them even when they were not there.Read More...

My SIL lives in Flagstaff and she needs an attachment therapst and I found one for her in Flagstaff. However, I am in a major metropolitan area and there aren't any attachment therapists around here except for RAD. It seems, though, that you might find someone who is more accepting of attachment if you research "trauma" T's. There seems to be a lot more of those. When I consulted with the trauma T over the summer, she mentioned that she didn't think (and this is coming from a T) my T had the...Read More...

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Forgetmenot, Yeah it was with H. Timely comment you made about the realization of many things coming...so much is happening...I got to go off to journal it all down.Read More...

Hey FMN Glad you liked it. Oh yeah for me too - CBT would've been just papering over the cracks - and poor little me would've been left all lonely inside still. As painful as this process is, it's defo the only way forward for me. It's nice to meet others who are there too as it's such a different experience/relationship. hugs xRead More...

Hi Brokes, thanks for the update. I was wondering how things were going for you with new T. When I started with my T after oldT I also did not experience with him that constant state of anxiety about the relationship. Maybe the grief was overwhelming everything else or maybe without the attachment I just was not so anxious. I don't really know why but it was a relief. I hope things continue to go smoothly for you with new T. I like that you have discussed what you need to get you from...Read More...

Muff that's right. It's underestimated how IMPORTANT attachment is for a baby. xoxo, this is interesting. I have happened to be in the company of people who are as complex/have major NPD or so complexities. Two romance interests, one landlady so far, in 3 years. Interestingly these were the kinds of people who were very confident and charming but lacked emotion attunement. Similar to my father. I learnt about myself here. I am easily taken in by people who are confident and secure in...Read More...

I love this! Especially the second half of it where she talks about what we do to numb vulnerability. Thanks for this.Read More...

Hi FOT!! It's so good to hear from you. I still remember when you went through that awful time with your former P. I'm so glad for you that you have continued working with this P and that he's so helpful for you. As for your question...I'm wondering if your P made something of a misstep here. It sounds like what you needed from him was encouragement to talk about it - to know that it was safe to talk about it and that he believed you. It sounds like that part of his response really helped...Read More...

Well i guess i should throw some links up. There are federal, state/province, and professional laws and codes. Some of these pertain only in the U.S., but some of the links include Canada as well as a variety of professional associations. I don't know too much about the UK, sorry. People should keep in mind that when multiple laws, codes, or professional standards are involved, often the most conservative-strictest supercedes the others. Here are places/links where you can find most of the...Read More...

Thanks anyway Yaku. I'll see if I can find something. I think it might help me. I understand about all the stuff your T has.Read More...

what a wonderful post - of course it is about acceptance - one of my struggles has been i can accept others waaaayyyy more easily than i accept myself. workin' on it.Read More...

YAKU, That's an interesting term. I'll have to look into it a little. You are probably right, she is really exhausted!!! LOL!!!Read More...

Poetic. Speechless. You have quite a way with words!Read More...

Thanks for posting that smallfry. I don't think we have met yet so welcome to the forum. Looking forward to getting to know you. TNRead More...

TN, It was so great to read the words you wrote when you said: I know it's him and not me although it took me a long time to recognize that. I know I am in safe hands. Yaku, Isn't it a great article? I really related to it.Read More...

UV, I just meant I'm not a big fan of diagnoses, so I didn't feel like you were hijacking the thread or going off topic. It's why I posted the link in the first place. My T had a fairly eclectic approach, but definitely had a psychodynamic approach. Frankly, I think he used anything that worked with any particular patient. But he never saw clients as a diagnosis. He would just be with a client and let it unfold and deal with whatever came up. So with people like me who had an insecure...Read More...