SG, SO glad it helped and immensely relieved you understood what I meant I was worried I sounded a little crazy. AGRead More...

Nada & Happy Girl, Thank you for reading them - glad you liked them. Yes.. I rather liked the sheep too, he was lots of fun to drawRead More...

UV, This article comes at a very appropriate time for me and has given me much food for thought. Thanks!Read More...

Hi STRM, I just finished reading the article. I liked it. I think the models it presents for understanding our experiences of positive and negative affects seem potentially very valuable. I found myself considering some of my own bouts of depression in new ways, based on the ideas presented in the article. For instance, when I was growing up, most anything I really liked was considered suspect by my parents, so the positive affect of "interest-excitement" was constantly being interrupted.Read More...

I feel bad for my T, because he said he is personally inclined to hug, but feels professionally restricted. The only thing he is clarifying with the professional association is the legal issues, I think, but they will probably say what you say. If I ever do get a hug, it will have been so much work for both of us to get there, it will probably feel a bit anti-climatic, LOL. Edit: Just reread the whole article, LOL. First thing that really stood out is the distinguishing of therapeutically...Read More...

Hi BI, My T also recommended that I see a nutritionist, and I went to the person she recommended (who is also a registered dietitian - very important!) I have found the nutritionist very helpful, actually, and I was surprised by that. I figured it would be a few appointments on learning how to better plan for meals and learning how to balance what I eat. Instead, I'm going on my third month with the nutritionist, and while I'm learning a lot, I still have a lot to learn The nutritionist I...Read More...

Not a childrens book,but I was watching Tarzan with my daughter this morning and cried over this part http://www.youtube.com/watch?v...Gofw&feature=related Miss my T, have survived 10 days, just 24 days to goRead More...

I have to agree totally with you that this article does give hope, it echoes totally what my t told me near the start of therapy, 'we are in for a marathon here, it will take time as long as it takes, and I will not be going anywhere while we are taking this journey together'. So true the other stuff it mentions about attunement, and maybe it should be required reading for all those 'pros' out there who told me there was no cure for my cptsdRead More...

That is really interesting. Thanks for posting R2G!Read More...

BG, it all sounds good. I've been reading along, but not much to offer for some reason. It's great that your journey has progressed to peacefully rbing you to the point of considering this*for yourself* with no pressure or hinting from him- I love the sound of your T. He seem amazing form the posts I read from you. So glad you can consider leaving and trying your wings, with no pressure. Take your time- BBRead More...

Excellent piece you found BG - thanks for posting it!Read More...

Thanks TN aand SG andJD and AG. I'm sorry I hijacked this little area, I didn't mean too. thanks for your reassurances. I'm hearing you but I find I just can't seem to take it in. I just keep thinking about it from my T's perpective, and what *he* would think, and he would think..."well, you made the decision to go, and now you are blaming me for not stopping you, when it very well may be in your best interests.." you know? I just...arg.Read More...

Let's just put it this way. Last night I "vented" into my journal in the form of close to 4,000 words. I am now editing it down to a very straightforward letter stating things I would never be able to speak. Handing it to T tomorrow... we'll see how it goes...Read More...

Loved this very much. There is one part in particular that keeps coming back to me, how our shame stems from how we are afraid of not being "worthy" of connection. Very powerful and very true. I'm also very interested in reading her book posted about in another thread. Thanks so much for the link, AG. SGRead More...

Thanks for letting me know that LadyGrey. I cried when I read her book. It was so helpful to me. There's another youtube video interviewing her but it's more about her life and work. But this one is 55 Minutes long. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=USTKmffoQms joRead More...

Thanks, reading now. Relating a lot to it...this is the kind of stuff I've been wanting T to explain to me, because the intellectual/observer/executive "me" can deal better with accepting my crazy, unpredictable states if I get what the heck is going on. Preverbal assumptions: Well, I feel a little less stupid that I can't get my feeling parts to accept T's repeated statements about me and him and our connection. Both this article and the attachment article made me think that my attachment...Read More...

Yeah I had a T for about a year maybe a little less and I googled her and someone wrote something really horrible about her so I told her about it and then she turned on me and asked if I did it and said she was consulting an attorney. That along with other things caused me to terminate my relationship with her. lolRead More...

JD, Thanks for posting this! my couns just recommended to me that I see my dr about getting onto an antidepressant and even though not all the things on the list apply, i can def see many that do so thanks for posting it!Read More...

TN, Go back and read what you wrote. It was YOU who had the hope. IMVHO, you need to own that. That hope is going to take you far in life. You could teach OldT a thing or two about hope. Again IMVHO, he didn't have hope and that's what the problem was. I don't know what your plans are in terms of your schooling but you would make a far better T than OldT. Not knowing him the way you do, my guess is that he just has charimsa but he's not the real deal. He's probably a narcissist, which is why...Read More...

Awesome link, Thanks!Read More...

UV - That's interesting. My H shames me for apologizing about stuff I shouldn't. He gets angry at me. It makes me apologize more. I outright told T my problem with feeling sorry/responsible for too many things and how H reacts. We talked about how it was probably about preempting attacks in the past, but T also saw it as kind of a way of "connecting" with people and letting them know I'm thinking about and feeling for them. Rather than tell me not to do it, he'll just ask, "Are you...Read More...

Great stuff - thanks for these articles, guys.Read More...