muff, I so get it. Everyone likes my dad and brother - until or unless they really know them. They are often the main topic in therapy, which in itself is frustrating because sometimes I just wish I didn't have to keep working on issues "with them". I get that growing up with a psychopathic father and a self absorbed mother fosters all of my attachment and avoidance problems...but sometimes, you know, I just want to feel like I'm working on "my life".