Attachment Girl,
I know this post was a few months back - hopefully you have worked some of "kinks" out. From personal experience, I know that when the harder issues come up - I fall back into the habit of ignoring it, pushing it back into the box as it were. My T and I have had many conversations with this issue. I keep reminding myself that things are different now, I'm not alone with it anymore. But the hardest thing is to change an ingrained habit.

You sound like you have a good T. I find that same acceptance and non judgment to be the most helpful to allow the memories loose to deal with honestly. Beating one's self up goes with the territory I think - at least for me, but to have that one or two person remind me that was then and now is new - I no longer need to beat myself up.

Ellison