It's interesting that you stated that transference is the purest or best way of getting to emotions or feelings. Different psychologists will have varying opinions on this. Some will even tell you that the term transference is not always used correctly.
I know that everyone is different, but I have made a concious choice to not get attached to my therapist to the point that I am counting down the days to our next session. While I feel that our sessions are productive and helpful, I feel that I would experience anxiety if I were to start counting days to our next session. I believe that I, alone, control my life so I have made a concious effort to not get overly dependent in regards to my therapist. As I stated before, I know that everyone is different and I respect that.