Wow, that's interesting. I never thought of that. But of course, a therapist is human so eventually there might be times when fatigue or their own issues get in the way. A therapist cannot be 100% completely there all the time.

But you know...just as I'm writing this, neither is a mother. In fact, in the research, it's these moments of misattunements and abandonments) that open up the possibility for Mom and infant to connect better.

Healing comes from the bond being repaired.

But back to your question. We're extremely sensitive to how our T responds...just thinking of my own therapy...I watch her. I hang on afterwards to the look she gave me when I mentioned something. I project onto that look of disapproval (or was it concern) and make it into much bigger proportions. That's my stuff. If I wasn't sensitive to disapproval, I wouldn't care or even notice.

Does that make sense?
Shrinklady