I was the one that said - you need to find a T that is more clever than you. (actually, I said smarter than you. Here in the states, sometimes clever has negative connotations) Someone who is rock solid with boundries. Someone consistant in there love.
When I first started with me T, I told him right up front- I need someone stronger, smarter than me, and I did not think he was the one. He assured me that was. And he is.
I only know one T. So I did not know how the whole therapy thing worked, so I was bold in the beginning, nice- but bold. You can do that with your next T.
Have a relaxing time in Wales- be good to all the parts of you!!!
Mayo