Boy oh boy have you had a rough time!! Bad enough what we've suffered at the hands of family but a therapist!!! Shameful!! You are doing marvellously well and will continue to do so. Re a possible new T - the 'no tea' T might not provide hot drinks but she appeared to recognise and meet your deepest need instinctively - I'd be inclined to have a 'trial' period and maybe take a thermos and offer her some tea!!! I always take a capuccino as we meet at the end of the day and are hanging out for one and take turns paying.
Keep taking care dear S.
Hugs
Morgs