Veryhopeful, you have been brave indeed to open to your T and share with him the erotic feelings that are sensitive and vulnerable. You certainly have more courage than I do.
But, I'm just wondering if the T might be less responsive because he's hoping you will look into some of those transference issues that came before the erotic feelings, such as in early childhood before transference becomes sexualized. Those are essential, too. Just an idea. Sometimes it's easier, even, to feel sexual than to look at mistreatment and rejections from way back.