Hi LT and welcome to the Board. I'm sorry you are having such a rough time in therapy. Sometimes I leave my T and feel worse about things...even myself...but other times I feel very connected to him. And it took some time but I do feel safe with him. What helps me is that I have discussed my need for reassurance with him and he has been able to come through on that. We have also discussed contact out of session and he does allow email and phone calls. I try not to abuse the priviledge and he is really good about respondng for the most part. All of this helps me as I work through my attachment injury from early childhood. Knowing that he is there for me always has made a tremendous difference and I know for me personally, that I would not be able to do this hard work in therapy if I did not feel connected, safe and reassured that he was there.

Please don't just stop talking. Try to bring up these concerns to your T and then if there is no improvement, could you consider seeing someone else? Perhaps she is just not the right T with the right style for you.

Please keep posting and let us know how you are doing.

True North