Hi Megan, I know exactly how you feel about this attachment. My attachment to my T tends to get more needy when I'm going through some personal stuff at home. For some reason, the attachment has loosened and I fear its because I have employed my own distrust onto her and I am now distancing myself. I'm unsure..
I worry too, about getting too close and being in the depths of it. I guess we have to simply follow the advice of what others have gone through and, well, go through it.
Hugs to you. Im sorry I cannot offer any consolation. But here if you need to speak and vent.

xx