(((TAS)))

This was my T's reason for the no email policy:

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My T said he allowed email once upon a time and it just never seemed to work out well for anybody. He said it got to a point where he was doing therapy by email, and he didn't feel that was healthy for clients. His clients' anxiety over how the email would be received and the chance that his response would be misinterpreted were both pretty high. So he just decided after a time that he wouldn't allow clients to email him anymore. Plus, he says the boundary is helpful for his own self-care.

You're right, my T is a good, sound therapist. Which is why I hope I can work through this.


(((AG)))

I think you're right. As I talked about abandonment yesterday, I felt my childhood losses so profoundly. I knew it was bad, but I didn't know just how much I had blocked off mentally and emotionally. Coming face-to-face with the depth of it nearly threw me into despair.

I know I need to talk about this stuff. I will try.


(((TN)))

Thanks so much for the support. We're both in the thick of it, huh? I don't think my T's email policy is going to change. However, he is offering some additional support with the phone calls, so that's something. Now, if I can just get over the shame of calling him.


(((LilTeaBag)))

We haven't met yet. Welcome to the boards! I'm sorry you lost texting privileges with your T. That must be so difficult. I hope you can resolve the situation soon. In any case, you'll find some very supportive people here.


(((Stoppers)))

I don't know about posting letters. I imagine his policy on that isn't much different.

When I emailed my T last week, I stated that I didn't expect or need him to respond. I would be perfectly happy to just be able to send him emails even if he didn't write back. But even that is a no-go. His policy is very strict. But at least it's a universal policy and not a per-client policy like his policy on touch.


Thank you all for the support. It really is helping.