Hi Z,

Thanks for replying. I'm glad you pointed out the "I can't ask" remark because I was upset when I wrote this and ended up writing this quite the wrong way. I shouldn't have written "I can't ask". He did say it was good that I asked, that I brought it up. What I really meant was, he told me (gently, but it still stung) I can't expect him to change what he's doing just because it triggers me. He handled it much the same way your T handled your request about the vacation. His point was we need to work on changing me, not him. That part I actually understood.

Thanks for pointing that out to me, Z. I'll continue to try to work through this with my T. I guess this is the part that gets really hard. Onward, right?

SG