As painful as it might be to get referred, it really is the responsible, ethical thing for your T to do if he doesn't feel qualified to work through this problem with you. And I will tell you that someone as motiviated as you and as willing to work as hard as you are WILL heal given a therapist with the correct know how. Let us know how it works out. We'll be to hear to listen no matter which way this goes.
AG
PS There was no bearing of brunt and that was barely ranting.
