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incognitoMember

Sea, welcome and I am sure you will get lots of advice. I'll give you my thoughts but I want to warn you that I'm pretty new here and have only been in therapy for 7 months.

Her comments about your personal appearance seem unusual to me but you don't mention what kind of issues you are talking about in T so perhaps they are appropriate. My T never comments on my appearance or personality and I worry constantly about what he thinks of me.

I think the only way to work through this is to talk to her about it. Ask her what she means when she compliments? Unfortunately, the best way to deal with transference appears to be by talking to the T about your thoughts, feelings, and fears about them and therapy. It is not easy and I have only just started doing it.

Good luck

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