Kat,
I hope you don't mind my jumping into the middle of the conversation. I really agree with everything Just Me has been saying (very wise woman,that one). I just wanted to chime in on the email. I think its a great idea. There has been a time or two where I've wanted to discuss something with my T but couldn't bring it up (ok, I've since pretty much gotten over that

) that I actually emailed him what I wanted to say and asked him to bring it up next session. It has two advantages; it's not as scary for you and it will give your T time to think through her response so that she can be really supportive of you. And I really do understand the fear of being sent away (trust me I have an advanced degree in "My T will leave me, it's inevitable.") but therapy is the place where you are safe to express all your feelings no matter what they are. And as terrifying as it is to broach the subject, there's nothing quite like being on the other side of the conversation and realizing that not only were you not sent away but you were heard, understood and accepted for exactly who you are. Priceless.
AG